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When Charity Giving Goes Bad

Mikey, The Crochet Crowd

Mikey, The Crochet Crowd

I am Michael Sellick, known online as ‘Mikey’, I am the founder and leader of The Crochet Crowd. I’m a ‘hooker’ at heart with the passion to crochet and play with yarn.

31 thoughts on “When Charity Giving Goes Bad

  • December 8, 2014 at 1:39 am
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    I made blankets, some crochet some machine sewn, to donate to a homeless shelter one year. I was shocked that the shelter wouldn’t accept them. It wasn’t due to the workmanship, but they said preferred store bought. What????? Anyways, I didn’t get too angry with them, I just drove to an area where I knew I would find homeless people and handed out the blankets myself. They were very appreciative and happy to have them.

    The point I am trying to make is that if you choose to make something to donate, and it is not well received by an organization, then find another way to donate them. Don’t let the prissy attitudes of one organization prevent you from helping others.

  • November 30, 2014 at 11:53 am
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    I saw Mikey’s sassy fabric video…..Please help! He had a holder for the fabric……thats my complaint ….trying to keep the sassy from curling…I love the finished piece…Please let me know how I can get one…Carol Moody..spankyx5685@neo.rr.com…thank you

  • November 3, 2014 at 8:30 am
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    Well said!
    Right now, I live in transitional housing with my family. We’ve hit hard times, but I’m grateful for this program. We have our own place that’s furnished and the help we need. I can’t “give back” financially, but I was thinking that when I get some yarn, I’d love to do something like crochet blankets for the apartments, so there’s a touch of “home” on the couch when they arrive. And maybe some hats too. A lot of needs are donated to the community through local churches and there’s a thrift store run by the program – but, I think, this would be one less thing for a church to have to worry about and one less voucher that would need to be written for the thrift store. Make a bunch of hats for adults and children in various sizes, then when they’re needed, each family picks the size/colors they like or need. I’m hoping that each family would be able to take the afghan too – and a new one placed for a new resident.
    That would be my idea. It’s not grand, but it would make a difference here.
    Thanks for the article! It’s a great reminder that you CAN make a difference as just one person.

  • November 3, 2014 at 12:49 am
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    Touché! I don’t understand the attitude of something for nothing or your company is gutter garbage! I was in a store the other day and overheard a woman talking “loudly” on her cell phone, telling the person on the other end how she gets alot of stuff for free because she tells them its for charity, and went on to say she uses her church’s tax free status number to obtain her clothing, groceries and tons of other items!!!! I was sooooo livid I really had feelings of violence towards her! But thankfully I was and be to hold back. I was able to get in line behind her and let the store and recorded on my cell her miss conduct and reported it to the church she got the info/credentials from and went on to let them know of her abuse of their tax free status and so on. I later found out she lost her job and then there was a big news report about it on the local news. I wonder how often this happens??????!!!!!
    It’s disgusting and a disgrace! I’d love to catch all these fraudulent acting people! And get them All sent to jail for some time!! Urghhhhh!
    Your right, you hit the red ball right in the nose!

  • November 2, 2014 at 5:16 pm
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    As always, you were right on point ! The definition of charity is LOVE ! If you have no love to give or share, perhaps participating in a charity function that appeals to your heart will give increase to the love you need to develop ?

  • November 2, 2014 at 10:11 am
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    Bravo!

  • November 2, 2014 at 8:41 am
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    Thank you for that article. It definitely speaks truth. I am the wife of a minister and have headed up such charity projects for over 25 years now. I wish to congratulate the folks who do make a difference. I must profess that we have yet to have a failed mission due to the fact that many wonderful people have stepped up to the plate. My sewing room is over whelmed with fabric and yarns all donated from individuals who know of our good works and ask that we take grandma or Aunt Sue’s supplies after they have died and share with the world. In honor of All Saints Day!! I wish to thank you and all of the saints of this world who do make a difference one stitch at a time. God Bless!

  • November 2, 2014 at 1:31 am
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    Mikey, to go a step further, there are so many ways to be charitable. Of course knitting and crocheting of items to be donated are a favorite. I have some ideas for the holidays. We asked our children to only give us money to be used to buy a sheep, chicken and vaccines for third world countries. Give used books to your library, offer to go into a nursing home once a month and paint nails for women unable to do so. How about the many everyday opportunities. Let someone go ahead of you in the grocery line. Let a vehicle cut in front of you. And the easiest and cheapest, pass on a smile.
    Mikey, I know this was not the point of your topic but with the holidays coming up, many of these gifts are affordable to everyone.

  • November 1, 2014 at 8:52 pm
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    Great article. Thank you for sharing. I try to crochet lap blankets from my scraps twice a year. We raffle at church 3 tickets for 1.00 and the money goes to missions. Last one only raised 22.00 versus 77.00 for the one before, but every dollar helps, so I’m not discouraged. Times are tough for everyone and I just love to crochet so it will continue. Please keep up your great work, Mikey. I’ve learned so much and look forward to learning even more. Continue to be blessing that you are!

  • November 1, 2014 at 7:51 pm
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    Loved the article. My mother used to knit rolls of bandages for a leper colony. It was a stitch that allowed cutting without unraveling. She supplied the thread and time and reaped the enjoyment of her craft and knowledge that people in pain were receiving her efforts. I like giving when there are no administrative middle men to pay.

  • November 1, 2014 at 7:40 pm
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    I like how you think Mikey and I help who I want and when I want to the best of my ability to give within my budget and my time restrictions. Sure, I would like to do more but my family and my own health come first. I pick and choose wisely and do what I can within my set limits to help as many as I can. I found out this summer that a woman who sits next to my sister in law and I at our college basketball games crochets for cancer at our local cancer hospital where her daughter works which is the college where we attend the games at so when the games start in the next few days I will be asking her how I can get involved. This is going to be a great year!

  • November 1, 2014 at 7:25 pm
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    There is a poem called Just for Today about doing one thing a day and not being found out. If it is found out it loses its value. This is a way of life. If a person only does things for ego, that is all it is.

    I am connected with a church that works with another church in the community. The women donate time, money, and yarn and create Prayer Shawls that are distributed to people who are ill or lost a loved one. Some are even sent out of province if there is a connection to home.

    For this year alone 122 shawls have been distributed. Prior to giving, these shawls are blessed by the priest/ minister. It is an ecumenical project. The response from the recipients is wonderful. They feel so loved because someone thought about them.

    We live in a world where there is much pain and sorrow, and any random act of kindness can ease these pains.

  • November 1, 2014 at 6:46 pm
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    Super! A common phrase I say (borrowed from a friend): Lack of planning on your part does not constituted an emergency on mine!

  • November 1, 2014 at 6:38 pm
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    Great article!!! I try to crochet at least on thing a year to donate to a missionary or charitable group. Hats, baby blankets, scarves, toys, something. Sometimes I can do much, much more, and I do so. Mine is not the lack of funds to buy the yarn, mine is the lack of time, as I still work more than full time for my husband in our self-employed business. I look forward to a time when I retire and I will have the time to do much more. Yes, one person, one item can make a difference. Maybe you can make one small toy or a pair of mittens for Operation Christmas Child to go in a shoe box, maybe you can make bracelets, head bands and hair scrunchies to send with a missionary. Maybe you can crochet or sew a teddy bear for Care Bears for Christ to send with missionaries. I have done all of these. One small toy or one pretty hair scrunchie could make a difference in a child’s life because someone cared to make it. You don’t have to do a lot to make a difference.

  • November 1, 2014 at 6:20 pm
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    Wonderfully said Mikey! This is a time of “go big or go home” and for the most part that is very hard to accomplish. Everyone has a crutch or 2 to bear in their every day lives whether it be lack of funds, lack of time or even overall well being but if everyone who wanted even just did a pay it forward type of charity the actual “movement” would be huge. I have done many years of volunteer time with 2 huge organizations yet the most satisfaction I get is the little things that I crochet and give away or “sell” really cheap to some one that is drooling over a piece and you just feel it i your heart that they cannot afford it. My prices only cover the materials needed to make an item so they are already low cost yet I still hand out pieces….it makes ME feel good and that is why I crochet…

  • November 1, 2014 at 6:20 pm
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    Well said Mikey. True charity comes from the heart, not the pocketbook. Very rarely are we appreciated for what we do, but we do it because we care, not for recognition.

  • November 1, 2014 at 6:13 pm
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    Wow, I really feel for you. I stopped giving to the huge charities because they used the money for themselves and not for the purpose of the charity to begin with. That really upset me. So, I give to the local charities for instance, if someone’s home caught fire, if someone lost family and no money for funeral, etc. The day to day living is really hard on a lot of people including me but, somehow, with the Lord’s help we manage.

  • November 1, 2014 at 6:08 pm
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    There are local charities that need help. The problem is duplication for the same cause. Thank you for the info.

  • November 1, 2014 at 5:50 pm
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    really good article, and I agree with all of it. Thank you for having the courage to say it. best wishes for the holidays.

    • November 1, 2014 at 10:59 pm
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      I really enjoyed reading your writeup and agree you do so much and I don’t know how you do it . I know you are much younger than I am ( 68 yrs ) BUT IT MAKES ME TIRED JUST READING ALL YOU DO WITHOUT TRYING TO DO AS YOU DO. In my earlier days I could’ve done more but I worked in factory making parts for 2-way radios for the army which I enjoyed then came marriage and 4 kids. Wishing you all the best of luck. I’m in Florida right now and am looking to help some way with my donations that I did back in Ohio where I live, but haven’t got the connections yet . I don’t know anyone here but am asking questions. That’s a start., right???

  • November 1, 2014 at 5:46 pm
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    Great article! I tend to help charities that run year ’round. During Christmas many groups have hat and mitten drives but in January that goes away. It’s still cold in January and there are still people who need hats and mittens to keep warm. I tried to work with an organization, several years ago, that set unrealistic goals and then berated the participates when those goals were not met. Several participants tried to explain “smaller goals and be happy when you exceed them,” but that advice was scoffed at, so the organization is no longer in exists because people just simply found other charities to give to where their contribution was appreciated.

  • November 1, 2014 at 5:36 pm
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    You couldn’t have posted this at a better time. Just threw my hands in the air and walked away from one “charity” today. Some people don’t know the meaning of the word. I’ll find another to donate to, so thank you for the reminder that not all charities are rotten 🙂

    You and your crew are awesome!

  • November 1, 2014 at 5:32 pm
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    VERY good article Mikey. It takes a lot of work to be a volunteer and a lot of commitment . It is not something you can say “If if have the time”. Too many people/services/organizations depend on you when you say yes. I use to volunteer at our PBS-TV for several years. Had a lot of fun and met a lot of people I ordinarily would not have come in contact with . Even got to where outside people would ask for me, by name, if I would be interested to help in their projects. There are many ways a person can help others, you just have to find it. The worse shame now is there is too much “What’s in it for me?” type attitude. They will never know the silent thank yous,the touch or smiles of appreciation, and tears that mean so much. Let’s hope that some day they will.

  • November 1, 2014 at 5:23 pm
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    I totally agree with you Mikey. If you expect something in return for your giving, then you have given for the wrong reason. Give from the heart.

  • November 1, 2014 at 5:21 pm
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    Mikey you are awesome in my book! Keep up the good work you are doing. Your mama didn’t raise an idiot she raised a very intelligent and giveing person.

  • November 1, 2014 at 5:06 pm
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    I’ve found,after donating handmade items of clothing for years,that most charities here in UK only want cash these days,so sadly that rules me out as we don’t have a lot of excess cash to donate to all the charities we’d like to . After sending the last parcel I received a letter with enclosed forms for donating cash via wages or by leaving them cash in my will & they told me they didn’t need anymore clothing !!…I have still made blankets for animal charities,for which they are always very grateful

  • November 1, 2014 at 4:47 pm
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    thank you for your honesty, integrity and for the standards you set for the rest of this wonderful crowd of hookers to follow. I giggle sometimes when some of the project people pitch their goals…seem to think a lot of us just sit and crochet all day so why can’t we “manufacture” what they want in a flash!!! Ha, they don’t give me money for the supplies nor do they recognize the time and effort (skills) it takes. That’s ok. I may be one of the people with a bit more time on my hands now that I am disabled and mostly homebound. However I am still the picky person I ever was and I choose which of my passions to help out. My local community comes first. The Crochet Crowd has given me inspiration and ideas to do and use to reach out even more… Thank you Mikey (and Cathy and Diva Dan) and all of the Crowd!!

  • November 1, 2014 at 4:29 pm
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    Awesome commentary! I couldn’t agree more. Your mother sounds like a wonderful person and a great role model.

  • November 1, 2014 at 4:01 pm
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    I totally agree with you Mikey.
    I, too, have a mother who did – and still does – her bit to make a difference to a local charity, and her example made a difference to how I look at any sort of charity work.
    It’s very true that, even with all the stresses of life we have to deal with today, even 1 person can make a difference 🙂

  • November 1, 2014 at 3:40 pm
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    Well, you are ventjmg about something but I am not exactly sure what…people asking for free yarn? Charities aiming too big? People trying to make you feel guilty about their failure to plan? Sometimes it just clears the air to vent.

  • November 1, 2014 at 3:37 pm
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    I think you’re right on the money. I personally have been trying to reduce my yarn stash by making Neck Warmers, Hats, and Scarves for the homeless. I would love to have 100s of items to give but it’s just not doable. I give what I have, if I can warm only 10 heads this winter I know I’ve made a difference for them. A few years ago I dropped off 20 or so neck warmers to a bank that was collecting for homeless people at Christmas time, last year I dropped off a big blue recycling bag full of neck warmers, hats, and scarves, this year I only have about 25 or so items, it’s not much but it’s something and it will mean a lot to someone and that’s all that matters. I’m not doing it for an organization in particular I’m doing it for me.

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