Cohesive Community on the Dance Floor
In recent events with Daniel and I. We are not party people. In fact, the only time you may find us at a bar is on a cruise ship. So once in a blue moon. Being in the country, we don’t feel the need to drive to the city to go to a bar that won’t pass judgement for what we are. So we avoid the scene, sort of speak.
As we have got older, and the lack of wanting to go to a bar, we have lost touch with recent music and dance moves. On this particular holiday we are on, we are noticing that there are more line dances with music. Such as the YMCA, Wobble and many more. The dance floor tends to go in unity but if you don’t know the steps, you end up looking out of sync and it’s very noticeable.
So a couple night ago, I watched this women struggle. Missing her cues, stepping right when she should go left. Leaning back when she should lean forward. For me, I don’t know the line dance. I didn’t find it funny but I felt it was so sad. Of the many people around her, not one person stood beside her to coach so she could get it into her memory. In fact, I will be so bold the dance floor appears to be birds of paradise. Each are showing off. Some are adding extra steps but it’s clearly, in my opinion, that it’s about who is doing the dance better. Where’s the fun in that?
Which brings me to last night. I’m a sucker for a glow stick. So the first people up on the dance floor were to get a glow stick. What I didn’t realize, the song was the Wobble, as a line dance. OMG, just kill me! I don’t know the dance. I stayed to the outside. I watched the steps and tried to get it. I was frustrated but like a fool, I really wanted a glow stick. Almost wished I had brought my own so I wouldn’t have to dance for it.
To my shock, another young man, about 34, who I have been casually socializing with through the holiday leaned over… Step right 4 times… step left 4 times… Leaning forward and paddle the boat to the right… now lean left and paddle the boat left… Slide right… slide left… Now shake your ass and cha cha 90 degrees! So for the entire dance, he was coaching me and I was beginning to memories. He praised when I was catching on… but he didn’t abandon me either. While coaching, he was having fun. Laughing and keeping with the dance.
About three quarters into the dance, I leaned over and told him it was so cool he was willing to help me. He responded, we all learned it at some point. You cannot dance it if someone doesn’t show you.
There was another dance right after. He coached again. I felt connected to the group on the dance floor. My frustration turned into happiness. I felt like one of the gang.
I reflected after all of this had happened. I thought about the women 2 nights earlier where no one turned to her to lend her a hand. I felt fortunate someone had done that for me. I brought it back, in my mind, to the crochet community thinking about it’s your neighbour or person on Facebook that can lead by example. Through the act of kindness and praise.
While here at The Crochet Crowd, some people hold our team 100% accountable if we don’t answer them directly on a question that may got lost in the feed. With over 1.1 million followers, with just the 3 of us that answer questions, it’s really overwhelming. I was reflecting again that our community is like the dance floor. Take away the lights and loud music. Insert yarn and a hook and you have the same atmosphere. You need those people to identify when you are struggling and willing to offer advice, not just from the leaders in the front of the dance floor but from the people who stand beside you.
While it’s a human condition to show off or try to out do others in life. True community doesn’t happen when everyone thinks the same. The true community leaders aren’t just the people who run an organization or group like we do. It’s the people who participate. While it’s nice to think that when you offer a nice compliment that you should get one in return. In a perfect world, that happens. For my team and I, it’s about the act of giving positive praise and encouragement that gets us most excited. The feeling in doing so can be very rewarding.