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Coping Tools for Depression

Mikey, The Crochet Crowd

Mikey, The Crochet Crowd

I am Michael Sellick, known online as 'Mikey', I am the founder and leader of The Crochet Crowd. I'm a 'hooker' at heart with the passion to crochet and play with yarn.

52 thoughts on “Coping Tools for Depression

  • October 19, 2015 at 10:04 pm
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    I loved this entry. I myself also struggle with depression since i was a teenager even though “on the surface” I should be happy. I like to knit and crochet but crocheting has become my favorite because of you Mikey and all of the Wonderful people on the facebook group. It distracts me from negative thoughts which helps with the depression thanks for all you do it is appreciated!

  • August 20, 2015 at 9:10 am
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    Mikey, The Crochet Crowd has been a Godsend for me especially in the last 2 years. I lost my dad in Nov of 2013 and my mom in Feb 2014. Granted, I am 61 years old, but losing a parent at any age is hard. 40 years ago I was diagnosed with schizo affective disorder and crocheting has helped me through the many highs and lows I’ve had to face. When depressed it lifts me up as I am creating something beautiful for someone in need (I make many prayer shawls and lapghans to give away) and when manic it helps me settle to a task rather than flitting from here to there and accomplishing nothing. Your newsletters, challenges and videos have helped me stretch my imagination and taught menew skills. My grandmother originally taught me to crochet granny squares when I was about 8 years old. Now I would classify myself as intermediate/advanced. I love trying new stitches and new (at least new to me) techniques. Next year for the first time I will be entering some of my work at the county fair. You are truly one of God’s angels, Mikey. You have touched, helped and improved so many lives. Thank you so much for all your time, dedication and willingness to share your knowledge. God bless you.

  • January 6, 2015 at 12:51 am
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    I don’t want to take away from the article. But I have recently gotten back to crocheting again. A year ago the past September 7 days before my birthday my brother in law James committed suicide . I found him . I now have anxiety from that. And I also deal with depression . I am so glad I found The Crochet Crowd, Crocheting again helps me to relax and forget. This past couple of years have been hard on me losing family members. But I told my husband this year is going to be a good year for us.

  • December 29, 2014 at 5:58 pm
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    Somewhere I wrote about my struggles and how crochet has helped-in one of the other articles on the crochet crowd, I’m almost sure. You’re right on wroth this one!

  • November 13, 2014 at 11:44 pm
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    Mikey, you brought tears to my eyes tonight. Not bad tears, but tears of understanding your struggles and the difficulties you have gone through in your life. Depression is one of the worst things in life. I know, I suffer from depression. It has been in my life for almost 20 years. I say in my life because those of us who suffer from depression never really get rid of it. We just learn how to cope in life with the illness.

    I am not always in a depressive state but when it hits, it hits hard.
    I thank God for the support system I have and for people like you who have given me the courage to go on in life and do the things that bring me joy.

    When I first met you at Spinrite I wanted to talk to you but found it very hard because you were so up beat and happy and full of life. I thought you might see through me and not like what you saw. But I did go up to you and say hello and talk to you for a few minutes and I am glad that I did because you made my day.

    You touch each of us everyday even though you may not feel like it some days. You always are there for us teaching and encouraging us to crochet without ever judging. You always have great words for people who enter the contests and those who share their work with you.

    You have been there for me many times as I watch your videos and enjoy the lesson and your sunny disposition. I always know you will be there.

    You deserve the best in life and I think you are such a wonderful inspiration for all the people who know you.
    I wish everything good for you and that you get back everything that you give to all of us.
    Jennifer

  • November 13, 2014 at 10:58 am
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    You are a ray of sunshine in my life. I to sent you a message, i remember the next day you made a small comment about it. how someone had reminded you of why you do this…I can’t imagine how many lives you have touched , I imagine in the thousands, you just haven’t known it. You helped me so much. I feel more encouraged , my crochet is an extension of me now, when I get compliments it is as if they are directly to me. I was not 1` to ever get compliments, so it was a bit hard to accept them at 1st. Without you, I would have never continued to try, to learn a new stitch, to create something beautiful , Without your videos to teach me and all the encouragement, your you can do it attitude, your sweet loving and giving personality,I would probably still be in bed most of the time, dwelling on all i had lost, and not seeing any hope to the future, While my grandchildren did keep me alive, you helped actually give me a life. I have mostly been in the background watching, reading , you never knew how much I was growing since that message. But I read this and I felt I should let you know. I worry about you, how much you put on your plate. Thank you Michael.for all you do. Please take time to take care of you… I may not know you personally, but I can say that I love you.

  • November 13, 2014 at 6:15 am
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    As always BANG ON!! One of the many things I love about you Mikey, you are honest, you put it out there and encourage us to do the same. Keep banging dude!!

  • November 12, 2014 at 6:33 pm
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    Great read. Thank you for sharing your coping mechanisms and a bit more about yourself.

  • November 12, 2014 at 4:20 pm
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    Mikey, I so appreciate your honesty and sincerity in everything you do. By sharing your struggles and how you have dealt with them over the years; you are helping more people than you can even fathom! BTW, you ARE NOT worthless! You are a blessing whether you know it or not. You bring so much joy to those of us who follow you and the Crochet Crowd. You teach, you entertain and you lift people up. There is absolutely nothing worthless about any of those activities. High School was so rough for so many people when it should not have been. The wonderful thing about growing up and getting out and away from those souls who just didn’t “get” us is that we discovered a whole new world where we are accepted for our gifts, our talents and who we are. Take a look at some of those very kids who made you feel worthless back then. What are they doing with their lives? Many of them are still back in the hometown trying to relive their glory days. They are miserable human beings. I feel sad for them in many ways. Still, I’m glad that I got away and made a life that I could be happy in. You did too and you touch peoples hearts every single day. That isn’t worthless that is pretty darn close to being angelic.

  • November 12, 2014 at 3:47 pm
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    Thank you for sharing your personal experiences with your readers and I wish you the very best. Depression effects everyone differently and I find myself finding solace in reading about the illness, how other people cope with it, treatment options, etc. I believe that people who suffer from depression need to seriously consider treatment options whether that be counseling or medication because “thinking positive” just doesn’t cut it. I want to recommend to you and your readers a book series entitled β€œHealing the Mind and Body” by Dr. Paul Corona (http://drpaulcoronamd.com/). I have been making my way through many different mental health books over the years and this one was recommend by a friend, and it was a very interesting read. Often I find myself overwhelmed with information provided in these kinds of books, but Dr. Corona writes in a way that the content can be fully absorbed and understood by an average reader (not difficult medical jargon like many of the others). 1 in 4 people suffer from some sort of mental health issue in the US and I think we can all cope a little better if we use resources such as this to understand the new and emerging treatments available to us. This series was well priced and offered a load of information that I found very useful. I highly recommend it to those who are looking for other options when battling depression or any other mental health issues!

  • November 12, 2014 at 3:34 pm
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    Bang on Mikey, it seems you always say the right things, right when I need them most! I, too, suffer w/depression at times too! Also, I absolutely hated school, was bullied, teased and tormented at all levels! Sadly I quit high school, just couldn’t handle the pain anymore! Turned out the best thing I ever did! Got rid of all the negative people! I went to work, met my best friend, my husband of 34 years and have 2 beautiful children! Three of the best things in my whole life! Now, if I start feeling down, I remember my 3 things that will pick me up instantly!!!
    Love you Mikey and all you do! You are high on my list of great people! Thank you!

  • November 12, 2014 at 12:53 pm
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    yes loved the article am working through the same as you. Crocheting and knitting make me feel good. And on that note would like to know where to find your beautiful hippo at the top of page.
    Fell in love with her the second i saw her.

  • November 12, 2014 at 9:54 am
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    Wow…sharing your history has touched me deeply, and your advice is sound and will be helpful to so many. Thank you. Sometimes we feel like we’re completely alone when it comes to demons, but when we share our story, we realize, sadly, that others share our pain.

  • November 12, 2014 at 2:54 am
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    So many people with so many kind words. I especially appreciate those that have opened up and discussed depression. My husband has asked me what I have to be depressed about, or stressed about? I’m not upset with him asking, he has never known anyone with it; he doesn’t understand how debilitating it can be. After reading your story Mikey and so many others that replied, I never thought about how calming it is to crochet! I need to do more of it! <3 Thank you to everyone for opening up and having the courage to admit the sad and embarrassing moments in your lives. We are reading this with different reasons, but here for the same reason – the love of crochet!

  • November 12, 2014 at 1:14 am
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    what a wonderful article on a tough and personal subject. Thank you for sharing, I’m sure it has touched so many besides myself. Reading it, it felt like you were writing about my childhood. thank you again for opening to door for others to feel better. I remind myself every so often that “normal” is just a setting on the washing machine, it helps when I’m having one of those days.

  • November 11, 2014 at 10:24 pm
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    Thank you Mikey for much to think about. I really should be ashamed of my depression. I married my high school sweetheart and our devotion only deepened over the 52 years of our marriage. He died on October 22, 2014 holding my hand in our living room. I know I am selfish but the pain of losing him is so great. I try to crochet and maybe get an inch or two then the tears start flowing. I really only wanted to thank you for being so kind. You seem like someone I would like to have known and been friends with. Keep doing what you are doing. You were always worth something and I would like to have known you then and now. I do hope this doesn’t sound like a stalker but more like a fan.

  • November 11, 2014 at 10:13 pm
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    Thank you so much for sharing Mikey πŸ™‚ Also everyone who shared in comments πŸ™‚ There are many of us who face these kinds of issues and it is good to share so people know they aren’t alone and we can find ways to cope. My saying is, don’t wait for the light at the end of the tunnel, carry your own light and start walking πŸ™‚ My light is my inner strength and self worth and walking is any step I take to reach a goal. On a bad day my goal may be to step back and take a rest and remember I have strength and value as a person. I have always been a creative person but over the past 2 years I have realized it is an essential part of my life and who I am. I am 49 (I keep wondering when the heck did that happen lol), married (2nd) and have a 10 year old son (4 sons and a daughter are grown). I am disabled, starting a crochet business online and homeschool our son. I have plenty of changes coming as our son grows up and I’m not settled into exactly what I want to be when I ‘grow up’ yet πŸ™‚

  • November 11, 2014 at 7:24 pm
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    Spot on! I too struggle daily PTSD from baby yrs till now! There have been times I just wanted to give up but some how something comes along to help pull me thru.It is a daily chore sometimes just to get out of bed but I have 3 great kids and they have always been that little ray of sun shine I need for the last 18yrs!! They give me the will to go on and do for others as well as for them! Crocheting gives me the down time mentally I need and my kids love what I make for them and others! I will never fig it out but I don’t need to anymore I just live day to day and pray the bad ones move on quick!

  • November 11, 2014 at 6:54 pm
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    Mikey, thank you for your bravery in sharing. It gives me hope as I have come up against some health problems in the last few months caused by my own actions and then depression has set in. Your simple, effective experience with the goal-making has inspired me and I thank you for sharing it. Never question if you have helped someone. Today, you have. Many bright blessings to you and yours!

  • November 11, 2014 at 4:39 pm
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    Amazing, revealing, compassionate……….what wonderful sharing of who you are Mikey. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. You didn’t mention when Daniel came into your life, but it appears it was “perfect timing!”

  • November 11, 2014 at 3:48 pm
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    Thanks for sharing, Mikey! Always remember how many lives you’ve touched/changed through your incredible gift of teaching. Until I found you, I didn’t have anything that I was passionate about or anything that made me feel like I could do something many people can’t do. Now, I have something that I love to do that is also a great outlet for my stress and anxieties. I may not know you personally, but I brag about you and your site when anyone tells me they wish they could learn to crochet. Thank you and your team for all of the hard work you guys put in to teach and inspire the rest of us πŸ™‚

  • November 11, 2014 at 2:56 pm
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    I too have struggled with depression and all the same feelings that you have felt. Had people use me and abuse me from birth until several months ago. After my last break down, I decided to change it all. I told everyone exactly how I felt, how they each were treating me and then ended with saying that I from now on would decide what and who I would allow into my world. I would stop caring so much about the rest, who didn’t care about me and focus on myself and the people who brought good things to my world. If they were always taking, then they wouldn’t be allowed in my world. After saying all of that and getting it off my chest and then started putting it into place and reminding myself if I started slipping, things have come around and I am happier in life, than I had ever been. No life’s not all that, but it’s no where as bad as it was. I find ways of doing even small things for myself, loving myself and using crafts and trying to give helpful advice to others that need it, but only if they want it. Otherwise, I move on. We have to learn to love and respect ourselves first, before we can expect it from someone else, or we will let them come in and tear us down. I am now helping another person who has almost living the carbon copy of my life and I’m sharing with her what I had to do and where I had to get, before I could really make that break through and make good choices for my life. No I didn’t do it alone. I did have to seek help from meds, as my health is bad and it is enough to depress anyone. It doesn’t mean that I am weak. It just means that I need some of that traction that you spoke of to move forward and to help with the small everyday things that could make me slip.
    To be where I am today, compared to where I came from to me, is so incredibly different as night and day and I’m so grateful for the change. I took 30 days to post one thing that I was grateful on my face book page. It didn’t matter how little it was, as long as I found something each and everyday to be grateful for. I’m sure it drove some mad to read it daily, but it’s my page and it was for me, not them. I secretly hoped that they too would think about something they were grateful for that day too. I didn’t get to post daily, but I would write them down and then add them when I had the time. I was busy being happy, getting out, making a new friend, trying to help someone else and living my life as full as I could get it that day. Oh I take some days and do nothing ! It’s my choice. It’s my treat to me and for me.
    My saying is this… I’m moving on to a newer better life and if anyone wants to ride along, fine. If not then I will leave them behind. No one can do it for me. I have to decide to do it for myself and make it happen, even if it’s only one step at a time. If I take that step and walk back 5, I try it again tomorrow, until I get where I can make more steps forward than backwards.
    For anyone facing depression and bad in life, please know that you’re not alone… there are millions of us struggling with depression each and everyday. Reach out and keep reaching out until you find the help that you need.

  • November 11, 2014 at 2:54 pm
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    Mikey, you were spot on. God bless you for you are an inspiration to us all. I am so very thankful to have found this site. It makes me happy to see the new things you do. Your zany antics and funny things you do. I’ve only completed one afghan but was so very proud of it. My mother in law was spending a little time in a nursing home before she could come home and was always cold. I started this afghan on the drive to and from the nursing home. Although I finished it when she returned home, she was proud of me for making it. she used to crochet when she was younger and able. I find it sloooooow going for me because there’s so much to learn and I have a fear of failure but I continue to plug along slowly but surely BECAUSE OF YOU MIKEY. Crochet and knitting is something I have always wanted to learn but had no where to go to do so. So, I THANK YOU for teaching me. As difficult as it is to do so, I continually try to forget about the jerks in high school but they do come creeping back from time to time. Only when I am feeling down about myself. So this is why I surround myself with positive things. Depression stinks but there’s help out there. You just need to find what it is that makes you able to deal with it. It is different to everyone. The hardest part is admitting you have depression, once that is done, be patient with the healing. Especially if you look to medication. It can take a while to figure out what works for you. Once you do, it is still a work in progress. Just know you are not alone. I believe what you did is critical. Surrounding yourself with positive things and positive people. Thank you Mikey for being you!!

  • November 11, 2014 at 2:10 pm
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    Just came across the link to this and, finishing my vacuuming first! lol, I just read thru it. Your experiences in life, whether being gay or not (I’m not), are what many of us go thru. We deal with it in our own way — IF we are lucky enough to be able to handle it. Myself I have been thru the death of 2 husbands, my father , dealing with my mother with health and mental issues (with no family to help!), before having to have her declared incompetant and now in a nursing home for almost 8 years. Throughout my whole life, even back in h.s. — I was never with the IN crowd, or the out crowd, just in between. Way back then I taught myself to quilt, crochet, do assorted crafts. And I loved to write. In my early 20’s I dealt with the sudden death of my husband, waited 20 yrs to marry again and he died less than 4 yrs. later, my dad passed just before I married the 2nd. In between I was left to deal with my mother with health and declining mental problems. No family close by to help or see what I was living with ! through it all I would throw myself into writing, crafting and taking care of my showdogs. It was what kept me as sane as possible. There were a couple of times that I was at the point of making that……”decision”, because I just couldnt handle anything anymore. The constant stress made it a very lonely life. Now in my mid-50’s (shut ur mouth! lol) , I have only over the past year begun to live my life as if it’s my own. I wasted over 40 yrs. trying to please everyone else!! Through it all, my “hobbies” kept me sane.( Even with having MS for 20 yrs, and over the past few yrs. having more symptoms, I always forced myself to stay active, showing dogs, reading everyhting on all crafts and trying them out). I even allowed myself to have a breakdown finally a few months ago and ask for help — the stress of a lifetime just became unbearable. I think truely unique creative people — whether in a crafty life or comedian, etc ……. are those of us who have to struggle to literally stay above water. We allow ourselves to work out our emotions thru our hands — whether working with yarn or fabric or a pen. I think most of us have felt at some point that no one understands — but there are 1,000’s who are thinking the same thing, being depressed has a stigma of being weak, when it is just a body and soul that have broken under stress. I am not ashamed to say I now take meds. If I had known years ago that my med has a side effect of stopping stress eating — I wouldve admitted being depressed MANY years ago! lol I have lost weight, feel better, yes I still worry sometimes — but I dont give a crap! haha. For the first time in ages I’ve bought new clothes and feel much better about myself. I probably shouldnt have spent so much $$ on myself this month — will I get depressed over it?? NAH!!!! πŸ™‚ Now that I have finished cleaning my floors, the dogs are coming back in to keep me coming as I settle at my loom to work a few hours — oh yeah, that’s a new hobby for 2 months now. when I take a break in between projects, I haul out my crocheting!

    • November 11, 2014 at 5:55 pm
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      Thanks Mickey, you’re an amazing man, bless you. ❀

    • November 11, 2014 at 5:57 pm
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      Thank you Linda, needed to read this today!

  • November 11, 2014 at 1:49 pm
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    Mikey I loved the article! Oh my goodness I think many of us can relate to some of the issues you dealt with. I myself deal will depression and some days are worse than others. I haven’t been diagnosed but I think I might suffer Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. You see I am a survivor of over 20 years of abuse that started when I was about 5 years old. I won’t go into all I went thru but I can tell you no child should ever endure what I had to endure. Aside from what I dealt with at home I was bullied thru most of my schooling. Later I married an ex-boxer who beat me for another 8 years! I have partial vision in my left eye because of his beatings. But….. I finally got up enough courage to stand against him. I left and divorced him. That was over 18 years ago and no man has laid their hand on me since. But then again, I haven’t let anyone get that close to me…. I am who I am because of my past. I just started talking about my past a couple of years ago. My wounds run very very deep but I am on the mend. I know it will take time and patience but I can do it. I crochet to keep my mind and hands busy. I am more focused on the project at hand than my depression. I invite you to read my story at http://scarsandtiaras.com/standing-on-my-own-two-feet/ Just know you like many others are an inspiration to those of us who struggle with depression. Thank you so much for what you do because of you I have something I can do that make me feel better about myself. πŸ™‚

  • November 11, 2014 at 1:34 pm
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    Thank you for sharing. Someone posted on their Facebook page that it isn’t about the destination. It is about the journey. We all have to make that journey. We can make it what we want it to be based on our choices. As a mentally ill person (PTSD, Depression, Social Anxiety, Agoraphobia), I know what choices make things better for me, and those that do not. Sometimes, I make the wrong choice knowing full-well exactly what the outcome will be. But it is MY choice. I applaud you Mikey for making your choices, hard as they have been, and not looking back. That is commendable and something to be proud of. I will make my choices and blame no one but me. I either allowed something to occur (at least as an adult) or I didn’t; the results therefore are mine. I claim them, I own them, I chose them. Passively or aggressively, I make choices every day. I can even choose to give someone else the opportunity to make that choice for me. Again, I own it and I can do with it as I please. Thank you for choosing The Crochet Crowd. It, and everyone involved, has been a real encouragement to me. When I am down, I crochet. When I am happy, I crochet. It is a large part of my life and to find others who feel as I do has been such a joy. Hugs to you all!

  • November 11, 2014 at 1:26 pm
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    Mikey,

    I love so much what you have done for me here in the UK, I am a single mum with an Anxiety disorder and since my mum gave me the Art of Crochet binders just a few years back, I have turned to hooking big time.

    You showed my purple Willy Wonka hat which I made for my son’s fancy dress at school, you really boosted my confidence, I’ve since set up a sole trader business called ‘Get hooked on you’ and I have some great support.

    I recently let myself down by being carefree with someone I found too tempting (we met on a dating website) & I now find myself pregnant. I’m joyful now & of course can not wait to make some beautiful things, starting with your featured cheveron dress. :o) I’m facing a slump now as I go this solo again, I could never have predicted the Fathers responce to be so horrific. I’m totally shame faced & in a lot of muscular pain with the tension of circumstances and changing body, But Mikey, although I feel like crying so badly, I am just so grateful for you, as well as my amazing friends and family. Thank you so so very much with love and admiration for you and your fabulous team at the crochet crowd. x x Please, NEVER leave me. :o) Nicola Ashworth

  • November 11, 2014 at 1:17 pm
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    Mikey,
    I already admired you, but now my level of admiration for you has increased to the highest level. After reading this article I have discovered that you not only help others with your creativity, but also through your experiences in life. Very few people would be able to share such painful memories and very few are then able to get out in life and find a path through effort and determination like you did. From the bottom of my heart thank you for sharing your story and thank you for being such an inspiration.

  • November 11, 2014 at 1:17 pm
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    Thank you Mikey for this wonderful positive article. I too can relate quite well with it…and believe in keeping positive things and people around me to help defeat inner demons. I absolutely love the Crochet Crowd because it is so positive and encouraging! Reminds me that something beautiful can result from an idea, a big ball of yarn, a hook, and time and effort to make a vision reality. There will be times of frustration and frogging, tears and doubts ,but the support from knowing others too go thru it can rebuild determination that leads to success. And so the circle widens because we then give the encouragement to others we discover struggling. Thank you again Mikey…. you make more of a difference than you’ll ever know. May your life be blessed and your goals achieved, and don’t ever stop dreaming!.

  • November 11, 2014 at 1:14 pm
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    Mikey,you have never been,nor will you ever be,worthless!! I believe that we all have a purpose here,in this “vale of tears”…and you,being exactly the person you are,have touched so,so many lives in a positive way.I admire you for the time you give to teach us,to share with us,to make us smile! You and Diva Dan have inspired so many people,in many ways,and the members here in TCC,all think the world of you both and wish all good things for you both.You may never know just how much you’ve touched lives;but I believe that its a great deal,and I thank you for being you(both) and for all you give to us here,I did enjoy the article,and found it to be inspiring,and very helpful,thank you for sharing with us.
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  • November 11, 2014 at 1:12 pm
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    Very well written and thank you for your honesty. It is a refreshing change. It is very hard to be positive all the time-that is where positive groups like yours come in handy. I have your group for crochet a few Christmas ones because I love Christmas, a few I need to delete because they arent where I need to be, and a few gardening ones because I love gardening ALMOST as much as I love crochet! I too have suffer at high school, family that I have had to cut out of my life including my grandbabbies because thier mother doesnt respect my husband and I. Life is hard surround yourself with possitive.

  • November 11, 2014 at 1:09 pm
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    I would recommend you look up the work of Carrie and Alton Barron. One is a psychiatrist and one is a hand surgeon and they have made a significant correlation between working with our hands and our emotional health….especially with overcoming depression. We are so far removed from our ancestors and for many of us technology does not afford us the benefit of seeing the results of our work. But a hobby such as crochet allows us a creative outlet, a means of zoning out and being “in our own head” while we count stitches, something to look forward to and a means of seeing our “results”. Crochet (or other hands on hobbies) are not a cure of course, and I would encourage anyone to consult a professional to really manage their issues, but to do some research as well and incorporate something hands on in their treatment!

  • November 11, 2014 at 1:02 pm
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    You might not be a therapist, but you are real! I as many others deal with these problems & to read this was like getting a big hug filled with truth, comfort, direction, encouragement, desire to help & love. Thank you! I hope all who read this will receive what is here with an open heart & mind, for it will change them!

  • November 11, 2014 at 12:58 pm
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    Loved the Article Mikey. I can relate to the High School situation and almost didn’t attend my 50th reunion. I am glad I did. Time is a great equalizer and I didn’t turn out so bad. I also related to the part about setting goals. I did the same thing one night writing all my goals out. Looking back a few years later I found I had accomplished them all( except losing 50 lbs.) including making a quilt for all in my family and adopting 2 boys. I pass that advice along whenever I can. Good luck to you and I love the site, especially all the items shared by your readers and your tutorials! God bless.

  • November 11, 2014 at 12:52 pm
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    I admire you Mikey! πŸ™‚ You are and always will be a beautiful person! I too had been an outcast in school being called names and such. I have an older sister who would degrade me to the lowest of lows and she is no longer a part of my life because I chose not to be drug down by her. I have the same problem you do with the chatting thing lol I couldn’t have more than one or two people to talk to or I’d be so over whelmed I’d get confused. And, making new friends and talking to strangers scares the tar out of me. But, the way I see it, on facebook I can be a crazy (hopefully) fun loving person to talk to.
    Breaking things down and prioritizing life is important, but when others come into your life and don’t appreciate what you do (Work and come home to clean while they sit around) can not only stress a person out, it can also compromise a relationship.
    It doesn’t matter about any persons sexuality, race, or religion, it’s what’s inside that counts…ALWAYS.
    I respect and admire you Mikey and I consider you a friend from the North, even though we do not actually know one another πŸ™‚
    Everything you show all of us on CC means the world to me whether I want to make a project now or in a few months. You are truly amazing πŸ˜€

  • November 11, 2014 at 12:49 pm
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    One of your many gifts is how open you are with us, your Facebook friends. Depression can be so debilitating, I’m glad you found your way out and that you share your story with others.

  • November 11, 2014 at 12:45 pm
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    Thanks for your wonderful article, and for being raw, truthful, and to share your story. It’s very difficult to go through health difficulties; regardless of their source (i.e. mental health, physical, emotional, etc). I’m a psychotherapist in Toronto, Ontario, and would love to help you if I can. Please feel free to contact me anytime if you watned to any interview, or anything like that. I’m genuinely passionate about helping people cope and grow from their struggles. Thank you again for your post <3
    Nancy Tavares-Jones, Psychotherapist
    http://www.lifepathways.ca

  • November 11, 2014 at 12:41 pm
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    Thanks for sharing, I have been fortunate and strong enough to manage through everything in life and come out stronger. I did have some depression when I lost my son to cancer a little more than 5 yrs ago, and still have very sad moments, but I Thank the good Lord for my emotional strength, although sometimes that is a hinderance. There are times where I would like to be the weak one, and let others nurture me, but I always seem to be the glue that keeps things together. I know from my daughter that depression is a horrible disease, my heart goes out to anyone suffering from it. I went on anti-depressants when my son passed away for a year, just to help me thru all “the firsts” without him, never felt so hopeless in my life. So I am Thankful, it isn’t a daily way of life with me. May God Bless all those that suffer from it, and give them strength.

  • November 11, 2014 at 12:35 pm
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    You know Mikey? You simply rock!!!!!!! You know, we all, I think, have a closet of sorts to come out of. No one knows the mind chatter that I daily have to overcome. The pain of ulcerative colitis. The moments I look in the mirror and think you look like crap….. So, yeah, you did good. Thank you for sharing! Thank you sharing so honestly. Hail to the hookers! Crocheting has been and is my therapy! Right now, I am and chapter leader for Crochet for Cancer. It gives me a reason to get up some days……Never question following after truth. Glad you are daily finding your way……As are we all.

  • November 11, 2014 at 12:30 pm
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    This is a wonderful article! There is not one person whose past did not help shape who they are today. But we all have choices about the kind of person we are going to be from here on out. While we can’t totally change our personality, we can tweak some problem areas if they need it. I’m glad you shared this with us and I know someone(s) will be helped because you did!

  • November 11, 2014 at 12:24 pm
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    Mikey, first, thank you for sharing. I deal with depression off and on because I am a disabled veteran. Finding the Crochet Crowd was a blessing to me because this keeps my creative juices flowing and I don’t feel alone any more as a crafter. It is hard to maintain friends who are fellow crafters locally. My health limits the amount of craft fairs I can attend. I miss the sharing so now I am able to share and learn more. I have new crochet friends like Chaplain Evelyn Roache, Linda Nunes and others. No matter what happens…the Crochet Crowd is a healing and fun place to be.

  • November 11, 2014 at 12:23 pm
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    Thank you for your honesty, and letting us peep into your reality. You are awesome, and you have no idea how many people you’ve helped simply with your tutorials. Crocheting is therapy for a lot of us. I don’t suffer from depression, but I do have anxiety, and I find that sitting in my little spot on the couch with my hook and yarn is exactly what I need to calm me. You have a lot of fans, Mikey. Keep up the great work!

  • November 11, 2014 at 12:20 pm
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    OMG tears tears tears threw a warmth of embarrassing you ,,,,,,,, you move me to be a better person , , and i am proud to know you threw crocheting your videos make it worth trying new things your laughter is sooooo catchy you make me giggle i love both of you and dont you ever change you are helping me threw my depression and anxiety much love to you ,,, and anyone reading this

  • November 11, 2014 at 12:17 pm
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    Thank you so much Mikey! This article was just on time for me. I am 53 and have Fybromyalgia and a few other health issues in which the side effects are depression and anxiety. I won’t take antidepressants. They seem to make things worse for me. Crochet and crafting has always been my “go to” since I was 8 yrs old, when my grandmother taught me. I have a hard time getting motivated each day to get daily chores done but try to crochet EVERY evening before bed. I especially enjoyed the goal making section of your article. I am a list maker so Seems the logical thing for me to try. Thanks for sharing such a personal story. Blessings to you and yours.

  • November 11, 2014 at 12:02 pm
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    Hi Mikey, I want to thank you for writing such a personal and poignant article. Kudos!!

  • November 11, 2014 at 12:00 pm
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    All that needs to be said is, “Thank you!” for this wonderful piece of wisdom you have just given us to keep in our heads and hearts. I have printed it out and put it on my bulletin board so I can refer to it as needed. You truly are a blessing to this community!

  • November 11, 2014 at 11:55 am
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    Wow Mikey, beautiful article, thank you so much for sharing with all of us. I too have struggled through hard times and depression many times in my life. I have found that focusing on the positive side of life always makes things better no matter the obstacles. I have made it my priority to keep my FB positive and surround myself with positive people as much as possible.

    I love the Crochet Crowd, it is my favorite group, and I enjoy reading all the articles and just being a part of it everyday. I can always count on you guys to put a smile on my face. Thank you for just being you πŸ™‚

  • November 11, 2014 at 11:54 am
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    Loved your article. Thanks for sharing! I too struggle everyday with physical disabilities and the mental letdown all that entails. The way you deal sounds very similar to the way I deal. But as you said when we figure it ALL our we will let you know. Let the projects begin πŸ™‚

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