Fork In Your Path
Are you circling your own life? Same decisions, predictable answers and wishing to yourself, “I wish things were different but how do I do it?”
A former crochet cruiser stood in front of the class to share her store. I believe her name was Carla and I think she may live in Florida. Carla’s tearful story about having her friend move away and she became trapped in her little house with sadness. However, the cruise came along and her friend suggested to go together on the cruise. You can see, it meant the world to Carla. She broke from her routine to do something unique which brings me to my point below.
To me, I visualize myself walking down the path. I like predictability and stable living. So decisions for me, even running The Crochet Crowd, have been walked down my path, aka my life journey. When I find myself comfortable and I have taken a right in the fork in the path, I will continue to turn right when I hit the same moment in the decision further on down the road. Predictability suits me but it can also what hold me back.
Major life changes for me is when I decided to go left while walking down the path. Left for me, means unpredictability and going down a path I have never ventured before. But soon, you end up at another fork in the path. Do you go left or right? When veering into the unknown in life, you want to circle back to where you are most comfortable, even if where you normally circle around maybe not the best personal choice for you. You know what happens in that circling and there is comfort knowing that.
People I admire the most are the people who make the left hand turn on the path. It’s brave and with outcomes that are not certain. These people tend to be the movers and shakers that people want to emulate, but like I typically do… I see them pass me on the path as they wave. “I’m off on an adventure!” their ghostly shadow says to me. Wondering where they are after I have made my right hand turn. Only to see them again in the future on a completely new path with adventurous stories to share.
Going Left Down the Path
The move to Nova Scotia was Daniel and I turning left on our journey. A path of unknown outcomes and uncertainty. A completely new lifestyle, environment and personal daily routine. Even for us, a new time zone.
With going left, we are faced with new obstacles and new challenges that we wouldn’t have had back if we had made the right hand turn. I know I am talking in symbolism here, but hopefully I haven’t lost you at this moment.
Breaking the Unpredictability
With going left, you have the opportunity to define your story. A new story to share. The right hand turns are your past but your left hand turn is your new future that is waiting to be explored. In my life, I have been fortunate enough to learn from my parents goal setting and financial planning. Yes, I can be spontaneous with finances from time to time, but I generally always turn right in my path as I know the outcome.
I see often on social media. People continually turning right. It makes sense, it’s the natural human thing to do. Sometimes, turning left is scary and doesn’t work out. So it’s easier to make the same decisions over and over, even if it’s not in your best interest.
So for people looking for change, it’s about taking each decision at a time. It’s too difficult to suddenly turn left, but making smaller decisions to change your future has to be done to initiate the changes you want for yourself.
It’s okay to be selfish for what you need verses what others think you need too. There are some people who are asked to give an opinion and if you don’t follow their advice, they frown upon you. Opinions or advice are just that, a reflective story to base your decision. The same outcomes with advice or opinions doesn’t always occur as each person is unique. It’s perspective.
So our stories are defined by the path you take. Sometimes we travel together on the path and other times, we are on a different journey. In the end, you have to do what is right for you and sometimes take a path that is unpredictable to give you appreciation or perspective.
Just food for thought.