Valentines Day comes upon us and you will either see woman spitting fire, floating in a bubble of love and/or women that just shrug their shoulders. On the other side, you see men lining up for flowers, chocolates and looking for a card. I’ve even been in line listening to a guy say, “If I don’t go home with something, I’m going to be sleeping on the couch!”
Valentines is a neat little holiday because it can go in 3 different directions but let’s face the truth here. It’s a ‘man-made’ holiday and we need to keep that in perspective. So women, before you start substituting the salad dressing for Castrol Oil on Valentines Evening and guys, before you start ‘accidentally’ cutting the toes of your wife’s nylons and blaming the cat for it… you just may realize that there’s love there but not in so many obvious ways.
Appreciation in a relationship goes well beyond showing up at home with a fresh bouquet of flowers. It’s the little things that you appreciate. For me, it’s when Daniel remembers to get my a cup of tea if he is out and about in town. For me, it’s making sure Daniel’s taken care of and that his needs are being met. This isn’t a one day event… it’s all year long, year after year.
The better gift to anyone is the gift of appreciation and acknowledgement. You like to crochet and maybe your spouse doesn’t say much about it. Your spouse could come up with little cute sayings that would make your day.
- That’s pretty! Did you think of those amazing colours all by yourself?
- Gee Honey… no one hooks as well as you do! will definitely score some bonus points and maybe a really fabulous evening that doesn’t involve a crochet hook!
- When you are done that project, do you think you can make me something really special?
In turn, compliments of your spouse’s interests really go a long way too! It’s a two way street!
So this Valentines, while you are sitting on a chair wrapping your fingernails on the table, gritting your teeth and tossing around a few choice words in your head contemplating revenge while waiting for your spouse to come home, just remember, inside a box of chocolate is an extra pair of love handles and a temporarily high from the chocolate. Love doesn’t exist in a box of chocolates, it’s the little things that they do and that you would miss if they didn’t walk through the door.
PS… If they do bring chocolates… dive on in! Diets don’t exist on Valentines Day! haha… That’s my rule!