15 Crochet Divorce Worthy Projects
Many of us, maybe too many, have been through a dreaded divorce. It is gut-wrenching and crocheting projects can ease the distress. For some of us, it's a process of months or years to break free from the mental anguish. Other's it's a celebration of the end of a chapter to move onto the next. Either way, it's about the idea of what we know and the unknown of what is to come.
You've might have seen my Divorce Crochet Afghan. It's the Crochet Catherine Wheel Stitch Afghan. At the time, I didn't know I was doing a marled effect but in coming out of the closet at the end of my marriage and feeling lost in life. I crocheted a twin size bedspread. I would later come to use this in the truck as I drove transport for a few years. It kept me warm at night time.
I would contemplate life as I stitched this. My roommates were heavy pot smokers and when I see this afghan, I can literally smell the air of the apartment in my memory. I didn't even know what pot looked like and I was cleaning up one day and I thought there were fallen dried up plants on the table from the houseplants. My roommates would confront me later that day asking if I knew what pot looked like and, of course, I didn't. Turns out, I tossed their stash into the trash and took it out the dumpster. Whenever I smell pot today, it takes me right back to this moment of time of a divorce.
For reasons unknown, a song in the supermarket can drive you to tears. A social update can strike inner rage. Either way, you feel unbalanced as your mind processes it all. My divorce was pretty easy as we had no kids and we both separated our property and sold the house. Both of us walked away owing no money and we split the divorce cost of $750 between us.
So my choices are based on what I think is a bit challenging but also not mind-numbing either. You want to be distracted without your mind being totally occupied on the anger, hurt and frustrations you feel.
Projects For Self Healing
- Crochet Catherine Wheel Stitch Afghan - Change the Colour To Your Goals
- Inside Out Feeling Dolls, Joy, Sadness, Disgust, Anger and Fear - paid pattern
- Crochet Anger Hat
- Crochet Sophie's Universe Blanket - great distraction and mental build up
- Rings of Change and More from Franke O'Randle - paid patterns. Delectable patterns to keep your busy with amazing senses of accomplishments along the way.
- Crochet Wishing Well Square Motif
- Crochet Stool Pattern - for home decor
- Crochet Charlotte's Dream Afghan - cheerful
- Crochet Namaste Rainbow Yoga Mat Bag
Charity Distraction and New Goals
Turn your eye to charity involvement to give yourself realistic goals to help others. Helping others to many people gives the mental lift you may need.
- Crochet Kid and Adult Chemo Caps
- Crochet Awesome Breastforms - for women in need.
- Crochet Prayer Shawl
- Crochet Pink Ribbon Shawl
- Crochet Baby Blocks Blanket
Did you do a project or two during your divorce or separation? What did you do? Leave me a comment below.
While my platform is not a therapy reach out and get the advice to deal with such situations, it's a fact of life that many of us have to deal with. Upon the decision of finally needing to leave or end a chapter, it for me, is extremely difficult emotionally. While marriage for me is not something I ever wish to visit again in my future. In one divorce and one ugly separation I had, I'm convinced the legal and banking professions are the ones who are winners at the end as one's life is falling apart and you are held by the throat with contracts and financial binding obligations.
I've learned over the years, there's no set time frame of when the hurt and anger ends. Each person needs the time but eventually, we have to find a way to release ourselves from the self-inflicted emotional scaring we cause ourselves. The second thoughts we have when we have memories is paralyzing.
Some people will never get past the moment and keep it as the top leading conversations in the future. Never really letting themselves to break free. Some emotional damage is too big to let go. I know I am not as trusting as I was as you carry forward the lessons you learn.
So if you find yourself in the grocery store and cry as you look at a box of Kraft Dinner, you most likely weren't the only person to wept as they shopped, drove or walked down the street.
What I came to realize in falling over several times is that its fear. Fear to let go. Fear to move on. Fear of the unknown future. Alice in the second video is a person who has fear and watch how she puts it aside for 3 minutes to shine before letting the fear hit her again.