Confessions of an Overweight Crocheter

Crochet O'Go with Mikey
Mikey Crochet Toodie
Mikey Crochet Toodie

As overweight and male crocheter I have obstacles in my crochet interest. I don’t even know if I should admit this stuff but let’s keep the blog honest.

I struggle with certain elements of crochet that I feel are blocked from me. Partially due to my gender but also due to my weight and body dysmorphic issues I have. While to some of you, I appear fine but inside, I struggle and will go to my grave regretting being overweight. That’s almost tragic within itself. I use others to measure myself from a body and personality point of view.

Crochet targets primarily women in interest. Honestly, that doesn’t bother me but what it does is limit my own opportunities on wearables. So for me, I have to adjust my interest so my joy isn’t stolen. Are you following me so far in my train of thought?


I Get Requests To Crochet Things

PuppiDawg & Mikey
PuppiDawg & Mikey

People want this, people want that and for myself, there are certain limitations that I have set for myself based on my own issues and weight. For example, I have never crocheted a sweater for myself. I’m scared too. I’m scared due to a few things and this is where you can start rolling your eyes.

  1. I fear measuring my own body to have a reality check? Is that ridiculous?
  2. I fear I will screw up the design and look ridiculous.
  3. I fear that maybe, the models that are skinnier than I won’t be a reflection on how I will look in the garment.

I know others feel this when the models are fit or slender in appearance.

I don’t want to teach doing a man’s sweater because if I am going to make one, I want one for myself but I lack the courage. Yet, I just need to find the energy and just suck it up.


As A Male

Mikey - Crochet Nutcracker Construction
Mikey – Crochet Nutcracker Construction

A lot of what I crochet goes to charity. I’m happy to do that but some of the stuff I crochet such as shawls are really spectacular. However, I lack the courage to use it for myself as no one is saying I cannot. However, I want to blend in with society to be invisible when I am out and about. I’m not craving the attention on the day-to-day when I am grocery shopping or going to the markets.

So instead of giving up on crochet, I have leaned into the craft from a perspective where the body shape of being overweight is not really a strong factor.

It’s why I slant myself to making blankets, scarves, hats and toys. I feel the passion of crochet from this perspective instead of doing something that doesn’t bring me joy.

As an educator, I have learned to crochet things and sequences for the benefit of the community but isn’t something I can directly use myself.


I Want To Crochet For Me At Times

Mikey Crochet Cruise
Mikey Crochet Cruise

I don’t think it’s wrong to admit that I want to crochet for myself. Like truly for me without worry about what the community wants.

  1. I usually crochet a few hats each year, usually one of them or 2 becomes my hat for the season. Intentionally filmed in my own colours for my own desires.
  2. I love and I mean love Stitch Samplers. My gawd do I love a good sampler. It’s not about the finished project entirely for me. To me, it’s like a puzzle. Can I do it? I know I can but to actually do it gives me joy beyond belief.

The Other Part of Joy

I literally have limitless joy when I get to demonstrate a stitch or pattern. Even if the project isn’t for me. I cannot describe it feelings I have when I see a person having fear and surprising themselves with the ability they have had all along. To open their horizons is a real gift to give someone else.

So whether the project is for me personally or not for this element isn’t relevant. The project goes to charity anyway when I am ready. I hand the items quietly off so the items don’t get sold when the intention is to give them to someone without any strings attached. Not for someone to profit to sell my sample. The sample was made to teach and inspire with it. It’s done its job and to give it to someone fills my cup over and over and over. No amount of money gives me that same joy. Am I making sense?

Crochet Charity Challenge with The Crochet Crowd
Crochet Charity Challenge with The Crochet Crowd From 2016. It’s finished now but I love charity giving with no strings attached. 

I’m Feeling a Shift Coming

Mille The Love Mouse
Millie The Love Mouse

As the years go on, I find myself shifting focus. The last major shift for me was using thread-like yarn. However, you know what is giving me a lot of joy lately is the item of toy making. Millie The Crochet Love Mouse I completed yesterday.

Oh my gawd, was that so fun to make. To watch a strand turn into a mouse looking back at me offering me a love heart. Imagine a kid or someone getting Millie The Mouse as a gift. The joy I felt making it is a joy someone can get receiving it.

I cannot design Amigurumi with my current skills but that doesn’t mean I cannot learn. So I need to set time for myself to learn some basic skills.

I can follow instructions but I lack the basic knowledge of embroidery. I have learned over the years things off and on but I haven’t been able to retain the knowledge as I don’t use it.

I think for me, part of my Stitching Journey for 2022 is to experience more toy making. Honestly, holding a finished item or having it in my office gives me joy when I am getting beat up in social media or feeling down.

My Spring Crochet Gnome I did back in December 2021 gave me so much pleasure and you know what, I am super proud of myself for completing it.

So I need to sit with Daniel and learn some basics in shaping and imaginary. I lack the foresight to see the item in my head beforehand.

Crochet Spring Gnome
Crochet Spring Gnome

Following Some Direction

For the nutcrackers, we did back a few years ago. It wasn’t a fluke. Daniel drew a concept on a table paper at the Crabby Joes in Hanover, Ontario. Daniel ripped off the drawing in crayon and took it home.

In his sketch book, he transformed the concept to something more. Adding colours. This little sketch was my guide to design.

If you see the video presentation below, Daniel transformed the drawing on the notebook and drew in a black marker right on the structure for me to follow. The marker outside was my guide to match the shape and self-design.

While the design does vary a bit, the guide gave me a starting point.

I can do something like this with a push for Amigurumi, I know I can. The challenge is, the original nutcrackers were not written out in a design pattern. So I could tweak, cinch, improvise and wing it without worrying about someone having to follow my instructions. The joy of that type of creation was incredible.

I learned how to embroider in detail on that structure. The lapel I did was incredible. I learned so much about the idea of creation

Nutcracker Sketch
Nutcracker Sketch by Daniel
Crochet Nutcracker
Crochet Nutcracker


So While There are Limits…

Ombre Cable Twist Hat
Ombre Cable Twist Hat

There are elements of crochet that really intrigue me. I feel there is something for everyone in crochet. So while some elements of this hobby I feel limited to, there are other elements that I feel drawn to because of curiosity.

It leads me to question others. Do you feel limited and what other parts of crochet have you leaned into to feel the joy? I’m sure I am not alone. Leave me your thoughts in the blog comments below. 

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201 Comments

  1. Debra Grundy-Terrell

    I love 98% of what u do. I really like ur left handed crochet because my 8 year old grandson wanted to learn and was having difficulty but the way u teach really helped a lot. And u tell that mirror in which direction of hell it can go cause we all have our own levels of hell we face daily and I send mines off to go visit someone who cares. U r so amazing 2 me and I love that u were open enough to share with others.

  2. Christina DeWit

    Hi Mikey, I too want to explore amigurumi. Definitely a need for more size diversity in showcasing patterns with photographs, especially if alternate instructions are provided. I have found some designs that speak to me but worry about how it would look or be brave enough to even wear it. You’re not alone, thank you for sharing.

  3. Lara

    Mikey, you are not alone. I also fear making myself a sweater, for lots and lots of reasons. I absolutely love the nutcrackers, and wish I could be that brave! So you see, you are inspiring even in your insecurities. I have been wanting to make some amigurumi for gifts, and have not had the courage to begin because I, also, cannot imagine the finished product — or, worse, fear my actual amigurumi will not look as good as I can imagine it. Fear is often not rational, which is exactly why it is fear! We are not only inspired by you, we are also proud of you. We get it. (you were very instrumental in my making some awesome graph crochet!) Happy New Year, guys!

  4. Darlene V Quinn

    I just watched the video of making the nutcrackers and it was wonderful. The work you did and how you designed each section to fit is amazing! You are so talented and I love your videos so that I don’t have to follow a chart or written instructions. Don’t worry about those people who put you down. They are just jealous that you can do so much. I am considered morbidly obese, even though I just think of myself as fat. I’ve been fighting it for years and I am not the kind of person who exercises because of physical problems with neuropathy and spinal issues. I do not have your talent and I don’t think of your size when I watch your at-home videos. You and Daniel have done wonders with what you both create. Just look outside at your yard. Beautiful. And some of that you contributed to also. Just keep doing what you are doing and give a sweater a try for yourself. No one else is going to see your measurements, just you. The problem I have with making sweaters is the sleeves are usually too long and the body too short. I have 2 blankets in the process, both of which you have tutorials for. One is from 2017 that for some reason I just stopped crocheting at that time, and the other is from early 2021, I think. But stand tall and don’t pay any attention to negative comments or emails. I see no reason for anyone to comment negatively to you or about you. You have a lot of followers who love what you do.

  5. Jeanne

    Mikey it incredibly brave to put your fears and negative feelings “out there”. As someone who has struggled with weight issues for a very long time, I, like so many others, understand. My knitting & crocheting has always been for others, except for hats, scarves, shawls, ponchos, mitts…you get the picture. The only time I made a “top” for myself, it was bamboo yarn & looked absolutely horrid on. We are, unfortunately, our own worst critics. It’s hard not to be when we are constantly bombarded, thru countless media formats, to the “ideal”…however there has, over recent few years, a slow (very slow) but noticeable shift in those perceptions. Despite this it will be a very long time before it becomes more prevalent. Just know that for those of us who have faithfully followed you for so long, you are very much appreciated and loved!!! Never change who you are and please, please have faith in your amazing abilities.

  6. Crystal WarElk

    Thank you so much for sharing this part of your journey.
    Like many people, I too have struggled greatly with my weight and my self-confidence around my body. A few years ago thought I went through a long process of changing my mindset. I’ve got some wonderful people (and a good therapist) in my life who truly helped me during this process. I’m a MUCH happier person in regards to myself, I’m not perfect but so much better after learning to love myself and take more of a Healthy at Every Size approach.

    One thing to think about is with making your own apparel (sweaters, etc) is the freedom that it gives you. YOU get to decide everything from the color to size, shape, yarn, etc etc. I find it very exciting to make something that I KNOW I will like (even if I end up having to frog it 20 times 😂). It’s no secret that store bought clothes for bigger people can often be terrible, ill-fitting pieces make from itchy fabric and horribly made OR they cost a small fortune!
    So far I’ve made myself 2 shirts. I learned a LOT from the first one and the second on first me perfectly! It accentuates the parts I want accentuated and loosely covers the parts that I’m still not that fond of and I absolutely love how it turned out. Even if no one else does! (I live in Florida so I made myself shirts with DK weight cotton blend because anything heavier I would only be able to wear a handful of times each year.)

  7. Debbie B

    Mikey!
    I think you are amazing! I own a Home Hardware store in Rural Alberta; and to help a friend out bought her inventory of Yarn so she could close her business for health reasons. I knew nothing about crochet besides my grandmother’s did that when we were small. I learned to crochet so that I could learn a bit more about the products I now carried in my store… I watched a pile of youtube videos. You by far are my most favorite person on the planet and the reason I still crochet today. I think you are cute as a button! and I wouldn’t just say that to anyone. I love to listen and watch your videos and you absolutely inspire me to learn and do more things. I have made blankets for friends, my son, scarves for friends and last football season made team color scarves to sell for my sons football team, last christmas a tree skirt and a few poncho’s…. Crochet is now my addiction. I can completely relate with being over weight, I work too much and have a crap knee from moto cross injury’s when i was a teen that still plagues me. I love Crochet, I find it a stress relief, meditation and I have a terrible time making anything for myself as well. Your shop on the east coast is on my bucket list. this is how much I admire you! You are the Bomb!!! and I think more men should embrace crochet. It is my goal to teach my son… but for now he would rather do lego… although he can macramé in art class at school so I have hope… Keep inspiring people and take it easy on yourself, you would be surprised the positive impact you have made on the world.

  8. Barb Davis

    I very much understand how you feel as it is so close to my thinking about myself. I know everyone wants us to be “kind” in 2022. Me too. I’m also hoping for less judgement about weight and image.

  9. Chris

    Mikey,

    I really hear you on the insecurities of being overweight and not feeling represented in regards to men’s fashion in crochet or targeting the male demographic with patterns. I’m a younger 4XL/5XL person and feel pangs of insecurity when I see garments that look stylish and age appropriate, but aren’t available in my size range or shape. I struggle with how to make for my husband, because he’s never been a sweater guy, but he’s always done work outside. That’s changing this year, because he asked me to make him a cable sweater using Tunisian crochet. My biggest barrier in making his sweater will probably be understanding men’s measurements and how to make them translate onto a garment. I’m really good at women’s measurements and getting them to go into a pattern, especially because of the wide variety of necklines! But for men, it seems like there are only a few and only a few ways to make the garment. What would your ideal sweater design look like? What shirt shape/form makes you feel the most comfortable? Are you the kind of person who prefers hoodies or button-ups? do you like textures or are you a colorwork person? Do you wear collars in your sweaters?

    I am askig myself these questions whrn it comes to my husband. He’s a hoodie guy who works on cars but likes to look good, like a Rico Suave-type guy.

  10. Tiffany

    I battle with the body image thing, I want to make sweaters etc. I get overwhelmed and think it won’t look quite right on my body. Crochet is very therapeutic for me…however I don’t know how many lapghans, afghans etc. I need. I think donating is def the way to go to keep my love for the craft moving. But, I would love to make my own sweater or cardigan and not be embarrassed by how many balls of yarn I need to buy to make if fit my body. Thank you for your transparency….I am here for the shift if should you choose to do so! You are such an amazing instructor.

  11. Kerry Mc

    Mikey,
    You can really grab the bull by the horns with this one. You can design or make a tutorial for an item and show how to adjust the pattern for the 99% of us that do not have runway bodies lol. My point is, more often than not, the person that is the recipient of the item is not perfect no matter their ‘size’. Even if we do not see their imperfection, they do. When I gain weight, I wear a finer weave items, when I lose it, I can wear the chunkier styles because my ‘bad’ areas are not as accentuated. This has worked for me to help me feel good about the moment in life that I am in.

    You seem like such a gentle soul and have so much to offer. I would love to see more male items. Searches on YT and the web are predominantly female and infant wearables and what I do find is meh. So I am trying to look at the stitches in the patterns and visualize in a different color to see if it would be a ‘fit’. So anything you do to adjust a pattern or color will be well received. Especially from a newbie like me. We need all the help we can get to make those lightbulbs go off with new ideas and techniques to shift our focus from the confines of the pattern and immerse in the yarn.

    I am new to crochet and your tutorials have inspired me to just keep trying. I cannot wait until I can make your afghan, it is and I hope to do your hard work justice some day soon.

  12. Narnie

    Hi Mikey, I feel your pain. I am in my 70s and overweight. Everything you say I ditto. Have never crochet anything for myself other than hats and scarves. I crochet for charity and knit for babies.
    Love watching your crochet tutorials and I am subscribed to your youtube channel. You are awersome 🙋‍♀️❤

  13. Sheera Gandolfo

    Hey Mikey,
    I’m a lifetime overweight woman who has had bariatric surgery and am still over 200 lbs. I’m 50 this year. My first love was a girl I had a relationship with for over 10 years from 12 to 22 yo. My mom took me aside and said I couldn’t marry a girl sometime in my teen years. I’m an only child with parents that were not demontrative with their love. I married a man. I love him, he knows my past. I have 6 children, 1 is bisexual and another is gay.with my full support and my husband’s also. I try to love myself and often wonder what if I was born in a more accepting time. I was a fat kid with glasses and had no friends. I crocheted as a preteen and have picked it up and taught myself through books and some videos. I made my first sweater for myself. It was so big I could put two of me in there. But I too shy away from clothing. I admire your honesty, and can say from my older perspective that you need to find a way to love yourself because we all deserve that. You do so much good for so many including sharing difficult honesty. I wish I had a friend like you to talk to! Life gives us all challenges and we grow by learning to overcome what holds us back and what scares us. We all do that in our own time, this is why life is a journey. You are in my thoughts, I hope someday you will not feel the need to compare yourself against any one else. When they made you honey they broke the mold and thats a great thing! Keep up the honesty, it keeps us all thinking and learning, loving and accepting each other.

  14. Experienced crocheter and knitter

    Hi I just read your post and I am a 3X woman. May I make a suggestion? You should try crocheting a kimono shape! It is very easy, just rectangles, is loose, and looks fine on anyone. I would definitely use fingering weight and some soft yarn like a merino wool, not a heavy yarn (cotton). You don’t even need a pattern. Make it wide enough to be loose. If you want something airy, use a filet crochet stitch. For each of the fronts, in the middle, you make them 2 1/2 to 3 inches less wide than the back, so there is an opening in the front. Then you crochet a band that is a rectangle all the way from the bottom of the first front all along to the top, across the back, and down the other front, until it meets in the front. The sleeves are rectangles too.

    • L. E.

      This is an excellent idea! Mikey, have you noticed how many women’s sweater patterns these days are just rectangles? Front and back the same, 2 sleeves, and voila! A kimono fits easily and looks fine. And then go to your Yarnspirations website and search on “men’s” and see what other rectangle sweater patterns they have. 😉

  15. Angela Alto

    I agree with Emme and other posters…there are just a few things to crochet for men, besides hats and scarves. I looked for months to find something reasonably easy to make for my nephew and his dad but ended up making hats. They love them but I truly would have liked to come across an easy wearable to make them.
    I actually saw, in a Scandinavian Crochet magazine, my friend in Sweden sent me for Christmas, ponchos for men. They were mosaic and had Southwest colors… sort of like the poncho from those Clint Eastwood movies.
    Therefore, I am making my nephews ponchos for next Christmas. I’m not sure if they’ll wear them, but I have always given my recipients the caveat that if they don’t care for my creations, and that is totally cool with me, to please donate them to a shelter.
    I understand we all have different tastes. I just enjoy the making and giving aspect of crochet. I rarely make anything for myself, however, I have been looking at sampler afghans (funny you should mention that in this blog post) as something to delve into for myself. Using colors that I like (which are thought of as “odd” by family members), and enjoying the ride.
    I’m going back to grad school (at age 57), so time won’t be plentiful, but having something to pick up that is just for me will be a pleasant change, I think.
    I understand your personal struggle with body image. Before Covid sprouted a couple years ago, I had lost 65 lbs and was at the “perfect” weight according to the doctors. However, I always saw a “fat girl” in the mirror. I kept it off for 3 years, but when Covid came I moved my mother in with me, along with my sons, and the weight crept back on.
    Anywho… I could be a size 2 and I will always see a fat middle-school girl in the mirror. It’s a struggle so many of us deal with and know that you are not alone Mikey.
    We are all here loving you and I honestly do not see you as overweight. However, I understand how you feel.
    Thank you for your honesty and sharing to all of us your feelings, thoughts, and tribulations. I think it helps all of us to realize that we are not alone.

  16. Angela

    I can relate to your body image issues. I think it’s common to most humans, at least in our “Western” appearance obsessed society. What did surprise me is the areas where you say you don’t have capabilities or have a fear of making something. What if you said “I don’t have an ability yet” As to fears; will bodily harm come to you if you make something and it doesn’t come out perfect. I don’t think so. If you say to yourself what’s the worst that can happen I think your find it’s not half as bad as you think. Either way it’s all a process and we are all WIPs, works in progress.

    • T. Hall

      I rarely comment on a blog, but this struck a nerve. I don’t make crochet for myself anymore except hats and scarves, but even those I don’t often wear. My problem is not just that I can’t convince myself that I look good in my creations; it’s also that 5 minutes after I finish a project, I’m convinced it’s ugly. And it doesn’t matter how many compliments I get or who the compliments are from. It’s frustrating and sometimes effects my crojo. But thankfully my joy eventually comes back. It’s sometimes seeing a project someone else does that inspires me, which is why I don’t comment but I do check out your work and designs. I’m obsessed with the hoodie cowl and looking forward to making one. I may never get to the point where I proudly wear my sweaters, shawls, skirts and dresses but I’m going to keep making them anyway.

  17. Carol

    Mikey,

    You are beautiful, a treasure and a joy. Listening to you and learning from you makes me so happy. I was late to the “happiness” part of life, and there you were to help see me forward. Weight on our bodies for the vast majority of us comes and goes, even by a lot (in my case). It’s the core of the person that counts. I know you know this, but it’s worth repeating!!
    Hugs, Carol
    p.s. Your fashion style is top-notch adorable.

    • Kathy

      I share your body image issue when it comes to making myself a sweater. But, this week I decided to start looking for patterns for ME. (I have never kept anything I have made in 40 years). I have decided to use a thinner yarn, I don’t want a bottom ribbing, it will be left partially open on the sides or completely open in front and I want to make it taper a bit towards my mid section. Through the bottom. Yes, all body image.

      My greatest crocheting fear is making anything circular. I never get it right. I will this year no matter how many videos I have to watch or how many failures before I succeed.

      Last year I mastered graphgrams. They looked so intimidating! I started simple but by the end of the year I completed the melting rubric cube queen blanket for my grandson. Yay me!

      I have to remember that, when I didn’t know better, I wasn’t so easily intimidated. I made a dinosaur and a cute puppy 36 years ago! Then something stumped me and I quit. I’m not quitting anymore. If not now, when?

      Your work is beautiful.

  18. Sandy

    An addition to my previous post!
    The title Overweight Crocheter need to be modified to Creative Crocheter or anything more positive.

  19. Sandy

    Oh Mikey,
    So sad and sorry to read about this pain. Never ever feel unloved or unrespected or undervalued. It seems this pandemic has made some people feel that they and their thoughts should be shouted at the world without feeling any responsibility for the hurt they are spilling out in the world. Know how impossible it is to ignore these “entitled” souls, however try to think of them as very angry, unhappy people, who only know how to lash out and hurt others.

    You have succeeded in this world of crochet. Challenged us to learn, create and be brave and to try new things. Know that you are valued. Thank you for all you have created and all that is to come.

  20. Angela Purschke

    Hey!

    I can absolutely relate to the ‘just not a wearable’ tilt to looking at patterns. I see them as I scroll through and get nervous about measurements and gauge and what will people say?

    So I make blankets. Your patterns (and the others from this site) inspire me to try something new and explore new techniques.

    Thank you for creating this community and for sharing your journey! I look forward to seeing how the toy making goes!

  21. Oh Mikey how inspirational you are and what a grand chap you are too. My Auntie taught me to do granny squares in 1962 when I was ten!
    I have advanced greatly now I am 70! This last week I taught mysely to do colour changes along a row making sure the second colour is hidden along the way, so pleased now!

    • Eileen

      I am currently making a pair of granny square slippers and guess who is the fantastic instructor, it’s you! Thank you for being you and sharing your crochet knowledge with us. Keep on doing what you love🙂🧶

  22. Christine Bye

    Good Morning Mikey,
    I have been following you and your videos for years and always in awe of your talent.
    In this crazy , phobic world we live in its hard to survive and you have not only done that
    but you have succeeded. Your life with Daniel, your humor, your dog , cats and last but not least your love of Crochet you share with the world. Your joy inspires so so many people,
    As for the fat phobic society we live in if you love something who cares what package it comes in.
    This includes loving ourselves.
    As always I love and share your philosophies and creativity.

  23. Maxine Nangle

    Hi Mikey!
    I’m a black woman and definitely don’t look like most of the models I see in the media. I joined a crochet group on Facebook that has mostly black women who come in all shades, shapes and sizes. They make whatever wearables they want and proudly show them off. And they make for the menfolk, too. It’s a different culture there.

  24. Emme

    Hi Mikey! First of thank you for being such a great teacher. I’m happy and proud to say that because of you I advanced from a beginner to an intermediate crocheter. In all the videos that I have watched you, I have never thought of you as overweight for me you look like an average male size (much like my husband). Make that sweater please (if you like), there is so little crochet pattern for men out there so this could be another niche in the crochet world that you can conquer and be a star much like in any other patterns that you teach too. Have a blessed 2022 !!!

  25. Barb Dowdy

    Oh, Mikey, I have been in awe of you ever since I came upon the Crochet Crowd! None of us are perfect in person or talents. It must start with our parents wanting perfection, I could never do anything right. But society applies it also. Well, I’m 70 + now and I really don’t give a damn any more. We are our own worst critics and I wish I could wave a wand and rid us of this burden. If people want to tear you up online. Don’t read it. That should be your new challenge. That is more about their own self hatred that they try to deflect onto others. You create amazing things. I’ve altered almost every pattern I’ve ever done. That’s just me, trying to be perfect. I could never do a nutcracker, It would drive me crazy LOL! We all have our own talents and nobody, NO ONE, can do everything and we shouldn’t even try. If you are feeling down, please come to the thousands of people in this group and feel uplifted. You keep doing what you do and learn to love yourself just how you are, cuz we do.

  26. Sujatha S

    Dear Mikey, you have inspired a lot of people like me living in a part of the world very far from yours. Your creativity sense of humour and your designs and more than that the kind of human being you are is what makes you so so special. Do what you like and wear what you make.you are a star and dont you allow any other thought to erase that.
    The very fact that you gain so much happiness teaching and creating and donating says volumes of who you are and the courage you have had to pen this blogpost.
    I’m an overweight person myself and i make more shawls than i need and am quite scared to do a cardigan or a sweater. I don’t think I would have said this aloud earlier though.
    So keep doing what you do. Blessings to you.

  27. Pharmgirl147

    This blog post sure spoke to me. I am very very overweight thanks to enjoying food, medical conditions, drugs for those conditions, and other uninteresting things.

    I have made my husband a sweater (after we were married, he had to choose the pattern and try it on multiple times). I have started a sweater for me, but it has been relegated to a project bag in a corner somewhere. Same with a cute kerchief top meant to be worn around the house only. Same with a cardigan. Anything that involves me trying something on usually doesn’t get finished.

    It’s like I’m blind to what shape I am until I’m forced into trying something new on and can’t quite believe what I require.

  28. Sandy Brewton

    Mikey, I am relatively new to your blog. When I read this one I wanted to hug you. Our differences; I’m female, married and old enough to be your grandmother. You make me know I’m not alone. I am a very experienced knitter and crocheted. When a friend saw
    I could knit, she asked if I would make a Christening dress. We were over seas. The only English pattern I could find was crochet. I taught myself to crochet. This was far into the last century. I love it. Please advertise if you are ever in Tulsa. I would enjoy coming to whatever event you might have. You are an inspiration. Thank you. Sandy

  29. Elizabeth

    All I want to say is;
    Please people if anybody wants to share s crochet pattern DO NOT HAVE A THOUSAND WORDS BEFORE THE PATTERN IT’S NOT NESSESARY.
    Give your pattern and then add your story. It’s very difficult to copy and paste s long unwanted beginning if you only want the pattern.
    Thank you and I hope people understand my pleadingr.

    • Mikey

      It depends on the goal of the designer. For the PDF’s we do, we keep it so basic. I used to over explain concepts but have reduced but the downfall is for those who need a further explanation, it’s missing so it triggers emails and messaging. Your point is valid. I find most people don’t care about the backstory but just want the pattern or to know the designer. So keep it short and simple.

      • Lisa

        Make that sweater. For yourself. For all of us making blankets and toys because we don’t want to picture ourselves in our own creations.

  30. Cathy

    Hello fellow crochet friend!
    You are not alone and what you do is wonderful as i believe it is our art form. I completely understand being overweight and making very few things for yourself – i frequently feel the same. Do what makes your heart happen and continue to follow your passion. I will now be checking back as it is wonderful to find fellow crochet friends throughout the world. Stay well 💕

  31. M Gibson

    Mikey, I’m so glad you crochet. Selfishly, I’m grateful that you put yourself out there because just doing that helps to break down societal barriers. I’m overweight too, and avoid clothing for similar reasons… I think I’m going to challenge that reluctance this year. If you ever make a men’s sweater pattern I’d be grateful because I could then make something for my husband.

    If you ever want to go somewhere wearing your happiest shawl, please consider a Unitarian Universalist church; they are the most welcoming, radically accepting, and loving place I’ve experienced yet. I’m not plugging the faith, just suggesting a safe space for you to completely be you.

    Love, hugs, and gentle wishes for you <3

  32. Sue Hartt - Perez

    You are truly gifted. I could just hug you. Never be afraid to be you with the rest of us who love you for you. God has given you a great talent. You have a huge heart that longs to share the great joy of crochet with the world. My crocheting & knitting have kept me sane through Covid 19. PS I Have a lovely sister- in -l aw. who is over weight. I love her for who she is not what she looks like.

  33. Chris Norman

    “I cannot describe it feelings I have when I see a person having fear and surprising themselves with the ability they have had all along.”

    You have the ability to make what you want even if you’re afraid yourself, Mikey.

    You help me surprise myself all the time and I am so grateful.

    I am concerned about you, worried that you might be burning out. I’m glad to see you’re going to focus on making toys. That gnome is adorable.

  34. Kay Whimsy

    Hi Mikey! I bet many of your fans have men they love who share your body type for whom they’d like to make a sweater. Consider it a challenge. Can you design one that you would enjoy wearing? Think about your favorite purchased clothing. What is it about those pieces that make you feel good? This could open a whole new avenue of creativity for you and give your followers an opportunity to then make one for the less-than-svelte men in their own lives. Honestly, what percentage of people are ideal weight anyway? You’d be designing for the majority of REAL men everywhere. Keep up your amazing work. All good wishes in 2022.

    • Mikey

      I haven’t gone to school for fashion design. I don’t know where to start when it comes to clothing design. The problem is that the product needs to be designed in XS to 5 XL or you are accused of exclusivity instead of inclusivity. I know it’s a mathematical calculation but I don’t know what those are to keep changing the sizes. It’s best to have never designed then to leave sizes out when I am not capable through lack of experience.

  35. Candi Mcadams

    Mikey, your honesty and sincerity are always refreshing. I am in my late 50’s, and considered obese and very aware of the judgements and assumptions people make about me. Life happens, health issues come up, unexpected stresses appear when you really don’t need them. It’s like playing a warped out game of dodgeball. Since I am and always have been one of those people who never fit into and have always been outside the proveriable box we’re supposed to live in, may I suggest to you stop playing? It will be hard in many ways and a lot of the time, but it will be worth it. I’m not on social media for the simple reason my life is mine. I will share with people who are close to me the rest of the world doesn’t need to know and/or doesn’t care. Unfortunately it has become a new “game” if you will to tear down others for supposed offenses . I figure for some people it is easier than looking at, acknowledging and working on their own shortcomings. Make your sweater. Do it for you and hell with what someone else thinks. None of us are perfect, we all have our issues. Make your sweater and let us know how it goes. I’ve been ranting for years about the lack of crochet wearables for men. I’ve been working on a few designs for my husband ( not a sweater guy) and family and friends, but the variety of shapes and sizes of the men in my life can make the process frustrating. I have been crocheting since my grams taught me when I was 7, and I make all kinds of things with all kinds of yarns and threads. I do other crafts, one of the perks of growing up when and where I did, learning the “femine arts” was a requirement. Learning, embroidery, quilting, sewing, etc. was more important than sitting in the top of an oak tree watching the hawks riding the thermals. I do make wearables for me though I have a major problem in the actual execution and design. See, I’m a breast cancer survivor and due to radiation treatments there’s an equality issue. Consequently, tops don’t fit smoothly like they used to. I know I’m not the only one, so I keep trying and sooner or later I’ll figure it out. Yes, I get looks and sometimes unwelcome comments, I ignore or educate depending on the circumstances. When I get frustrated with what I’m trying to make, I put aside and work on something else whether it’s for charity, a gift, sell or just because that’s where my brain went at the time. If it gets too bad I go for a walk in the woods, or if it’s -30(F) a short walk to clear the head. I thought that area where you put the chimney and you two built your bug house would be a great place for a bench. I take my inspiration from nature, it is a major part of me. Take a break, and please give your self a break. YOU are important, and you mean more to more people than you realize. Take care of your self, and I hope you and Daniel have great New Year.

  36. Ulrike

    Hey Mikey, You are absolutely awesome and your honesty is very brave. Don’t ever worry about having to please anyone but yourself when it comes to your work. Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy and realize how many people love you and what you do. If you’re concerned about your health, I’m sure you already know even small changes can make a difference and there’s plenty of help out there. For me, being so sedentary made my knees ache and that pain gave me the push to do a small 10 minute set of my own stretching exercises daily. Sneaking an apple into my diet to replace the sugar I’m addicted to helped too. Slow and steady wins the race when it comes to anything including healthier habits. As for wearing what you crochet….nobody’s business but yours. A shawl can easily be worn like a scarf if you’re self conscious about wearing it around your shoulders, but it’s totally up to you. Love making toys….me tooooo! I knit and crochet and look up the face embroidery on Pinterest. You’ll find what you like and with every toy get better at making expressions look just the way you like. Keep doing what you’re doing, we love you Mikey and will never judge you. Cheers, Ulrike Hannelorefrom Ontario Canada

    • Finrose

      Mikey,
      I think you should be proud of yourself, your skill and talent. I am s mother of 5, 3 boys and two girls. I taught all 5 to cook, sew, crochet and do counted cross stitch. Talents that are quickly disappearing in our modern age. They have all crocheted blankets for friends and charities. Teaching grand children now.
      You should never feel bad about your body. I’ve spent years teaching my family that you need to love yourself before anyone else can…you can do it as well. Good luck.

  37. Veronica glasgow

    Your crochet work is beautiful your creativity is an outward expression of who you are, i want you to imagine for a moment if you could no longer crochet, horrible thought, I’ve had to stop through illness. I miss it. Be grateful for your health and your abilities please, have a great new year with more fab projects, it was lovely reading about you

  38. Mickey, We love your work and the ideas, inspiration and instruction you give us. Please don’t stop and please don’t get discouraged! Keep up the awesome work you do! I haven’t passed the beginner stage in my 30 years of crochet so I need your guidance and advice. Thank you again!!

  39. Michelle

    I truly understand your struggle with body dysmorphia, it limits a lot you wish to do. My New Years wish is for everyone to be comfortable I. Their own akin (myself included). I made myself a stunning granny square dress for a Christmas party… 2 years ago. If I am going to suggest someone be comfortable in their own skin I guess that means I will have to put it on and go out in public. Let 2022 our year to make the sweaters, vests, dresses… put them on… and strut like a peacock!

    • Amanda

      You are absolutely not alone. I tried once early on, to make a tanktop for myself & it was too zmall. Made me look like a velgian waffle so I gave it away to a thi. Person & she looked great in it & loved it. I tried again with a different design, this time adjusting it to fit my body… it looked like a blanket folded in half & not flattering on me at all. I decided it is just not for me. Back to accessories only. Disappointing but honestly, I feel better NOT doing it again.

  40. Lisa

    Mikey, thank you for your honesty and vulnerability! You my friend are so not alone!
    I love watching your tutorials and learn so much from you. I actually made the peppermint throw a few years ago for my sister. Of course she wanted it larger, so it ended up being 11 circles by 9 circles. Very large! Don’t know if I’ll do that again! Lol

    Be you and enjoy your crochet to the fullest. 🧶🧶🧶🧶

  41. Lisa Santoro, Queen of self taught

    Make the sweater. Make a vest! Make a serrape. Make a kilt. Your body is yours. Not “over”, it’s your weight. And it’s all a marvel from largest organs to smallest cellular form. You deserve your crochet. It rocks. So do you.

  42. I’ve never even considered making a sweater. Lol. Almost 50 years of crocheting and 95% is blankets, many recently following your excellent directions. I did have a stint of cancer hat making and some cute baby hats with booties (all done thanks to the awesome YouTube instructions).

    I make baby blankets and newly wed blankets as gifts. I have 2 large boxes of embroidery and crocheting I inherited from hubby’s family from before 1950. Aunt Bertha didn’t get married until she was 63 and from the crocheting I have of hers I can say she was an expert. Her stuff looks machine made. I prefer making gifts so my family doesn’t have to figure out what to do with my stuff 50 years after I’m gone. Lol

  43. Ty

    I wish you could see yourself through my eyes. I am amazed at your abilities!

  44. Susan

    Wow, your Nutcrackers are fantastic. The teamwork that was involved in their creation is evidence that you are loved, Mikey. You have gifts beyond crochet, and I hope that in the future you will lean into these gifts to create not just things but a community of mutual support and affection where everyone can be happy in their skin – including you. Happy New Year!

  45. Susan Houston

    You really hit the nail on the head with a lot that you spoke of here… I too am in the overweight category (which is what caught my eye when I saw your blog posted in the FB group) but then you started talking about the pros and cons of crochet, which really started me thinking.

    I have literally been crocheting since I was a kid; I was taught the basics, and then just did random squares and shapes that I invented for myself without patterns. So I never learned the “right” way to do it, and never even looked at a pattern until I was an adult. Even now, I can only follow simple patterns, and will find something I like to make, and do dozens of them until I have the pattern memorized. I have a shell pattern afghan, a beanie hat, basic granny squares, and a handful of amigurumi pieces I can now make without consulting a pattern. I can do most of it without looking, so it’s my favorite TV-watching activity, next to embroidery.

    But I’m embarrassed that I can’t do anything more sophisticated than these. I’m in the same boat with my basic knitting skills; I can do basic hats and shawls. But following a knitting pattern is even more difficult for me. I have given away hundreds of pieces over the years, and it makes me so happy to do so – I make a bluebird of happiness amigurumi that I give to people for even the simplest of occasions (graduation, house-warming, engagements, etc.) and so it has become somewhat ubiquitous for me. People know that I do this. And so they link to patterns on FB they think I should make. I’ve learned to say appreciative but non-committal things in response, but I know I’m not going to make them – they’re too complex, or I’m just not interested.

    I’m so glad you’re getting into amigurumi! It’s one of those categories of yarn crafts that is much more suited to crochet than knitting. Which is nice, because, damn, am I tired of Crochet being the red-headed stepchild! I do think knitting is much better for garments than crochet; there’s more stretch to it. But it’s too square for amigurumi, which always look sloppy to me when attempted with knitting. Crochet does rounded shapes so much better!

    And amigurumi is ideal for people who like to give things away – less yarn and less time than practically everything else you might make. I gave away baby blankets for decades before I discovered amigurumi, and now I will never make another blanket. I know far too many of them were given to people who stuffed them in a drawer and never used them, while an amigurumi octopus or bird or turtle is a much more suitable toy for a child. And if they don’t like it, well, at least it didn’t take a month or more to make it!

    I go through phases of crafting… right now, for example, I’m firmly in the world of cross-stitch. But last year all I wanted to do was knit hats. A couple of years before that, all I wanted to do was stockpile crocheted birds and octopuses! That way, I would have enough to give away in the years to follow until I was in the mood to make them again. A decade ago, for about 2 years, all I made was crocheted bags.

    I guess I’m an organic crafter. I find what I like, make my own modifications, and become a master of that one thing. When the mood passes, I move into another craft field. I wander.

    I was intrigued by the photos of the crochet cruises on this page – I will have to look into that! Thanks for your blog.

  46. Michelle Jones

    Hi Mikey and Daniel, hope you had a restful and happy holiday.
    I suppose I feel limited since I can’t follow a written pattern. I know there are thousands of beautiful things I could make if I could read a pattern. But I am able to follow videos, which is why the work you do is invaluable to me. What also brings me joy in crochet is freestyling designs – where I just crochet stitches to make something, with no worries about trying to replicate it so I don’t have to worry about trying to write a “pattern”. The few times I tried to keep track of my stitches I was not able to understand what I wrote; which gives me more admiration for what you do! Cheers!

  47. Hello Mikey, oh my, I’m going to jump right in and emphatically state You, fear Michael, are not Obese, Do you hear yourself? Where on earth has you allowed your mind to drift so far as to see yourself as Obese? You stating this (imagined but real to you) this dysmorphia brings me to tears?! You must seek out someone, other than Daniel, who can assist you in your misguided assessment of your body image. I feel you’ve cast yourself in this untrue body version for much too long? You, dear Mikey are not obese so stop. I feel I’ve harped on your imagined weight issue for too long so I’m going to speak on your strong suits, Crochet and there you are the Star. I’ve followed, I’ve learned so much over a decade? of listening, watching you teach, invent and inspire every ear you voice can reach and as you know by now, this number is in the 100’s of thousands! You inspire of designers to be just like you. That’s a lovely aspiration but facts are facts. There’s only one Mikey, this is you and the crochet gods have broken and thrown out the mold. Period, you shine alone as it should be 💖. As for crocheting pieces that are just for yourself. I hear you, I am this way also. I make lovely (throws, Blankets and Amigurumi pieces) but always gift them, quite frequently to a number of Facebook friends I’m particularly fond of. I adore their reactions when they’ve been surprised by a package in the mail! To find out the piece they’ve watched me post maybe twice was created for them😂. I also have a deep passion for creating what I (and you’ve mentioned this too!)refer to as Samplers. I discovered these gorgeous works of art years ago on Raverly and have been hooked ever since. So if this is your latest passion I state empathically, jump in, you’re going to LOVE! the freedom you’ll have. You design your own patterns and play with colors like a crazy person but these pieces, “my babies” are all works of art in their own way. I’ve now garnered an entirely new audience as these Samplers bring out such enthusiasm and anticipation. Will Kate choose me to have her next Sampler Blanket. Go for it Mikey, the freedom is unlike your previous projects, it’s just you, your hook and your imagination running free. It’s exhilarating! I’ve gone on more than intended but I truly meant what I said in the first of this note…you are not obese, please stop. You are so perfect as God intended in every way. I wish you a lovely day and looking forward to a New Year with unlimited possibilities! Happy New Years dear Mikey and Daniel. Happiness, Peace and Love.
    Hug’s Kate

  48. Mary

    Oh, Mikey, thank you for this blog today. I am also overweight for most of my life, I also do not make things for myself to wear. I love that you are so honest and caring of others. I also give lots of stuff to charity, and you are right that it fills you with joy to make and give stuff to others anonymously. Especially those you know really need it and don’t need to have to say thank you. I make lots of booties and hats for our local Hope Group, they help poor pregnant families with needs. When I get down and underwhelmed with what I am crocheting for an order, I stop and make a pair of booties and a hat, those little things are so dang cute you can’t help but smile and feel good. I struggle with cables and simply cannot seem to do mosaic crochet though I try and try. Thanks for all your talent and creativity, your videos have taught me so many things I thought I would never learn because I am left-handed. You and your crew are such a blessing to all of us crocheters out there.

    • Sandra VanHooydonk

      Dear Mikey, I think making sweaters for us is overrated!! My body type is an original. I’m a whiskey barrel with a sweater on!! Ok maybe not that bad. But you have a real talent to do great designs, and your teaching is wonderful. Every time I want to do something
      New I check your site out. Don’t give up. Lets crochet a Mandala! Your friend Sandy VanHooydonk

  49. Christi Marie

    Oh Mikey
    Thanks for sharing your story & your vulnerability here.
    I’m an overweight Sr. Female & have never knitted myself a sweater. So I get that issue.
    Your Nutcrackers are truly Masterpieces!!!!
    Congratulations on your accomplishments in all aspects of your career!!! 👏🎉

  50. Elba

    Oh, Mikey, the world is so funny and you are so honest. I absolutely love this quality in you. I usually follow you and do you know what? I’m so jealous of your ability to crochet so easily. I need the instructions right in my face while I crochet, often forgetting where I am. I read, reread and read your instructions over and over. I can’t help but smile and wish I could crochet as easily as you. And yes, please do crochet for yourself because I have 3 brothers and countless nephews who’d love having sweaters in your size & colors. I admire you so much. You are such an inspiration for slow people like myself. Remember that always. Take care and continue being who you are.

  51. Michele Andrew

    I pretty much only feel comfortable with afghans , hats and scarves. I an terrible at armugami. Even my owls looked of kilter but my great grandchildren loved them. My sweaters are either too big or too small even with using a guage . I’d love to try some armugami wirh you once I finish these darn afghans. 2 started; one to go. Love the videos when I get stuck.

  52. Jeanne

    I recently saw a post for a crocheted nativity set . I’d love to make it , but I’m hesitant I’ll fail at it . The instructions are not easy for me to follow . What do you think might encourage me to try and not to shy away from this project ? I’d love to feel the joy in mastering it and the joy in gifting it to someone I know will treasure it.

    • Deb

      Just try one piece of the nativity. Don’t show it to anyone who might be critical until you feel confident. And then the next. And another next.

      I’ve been crocheting since 13 or 12 but 50+ years later I’ve finally conquered enough anxiety to do a large formal table runner. I just kept at it until I felt good about it, about myself and my standard for good enough. I’m finally feeling like people’s praise isn’t patronizing. And it’s really fun.

  53. Alex

    I can’t get over my fear of making apparel and my go-to, favorite make are blankets. I didn’t dare to make those either, not before I found your channel, but your instructions, kindness, joy and humor gave me all the confidence. You are a brilliant educator.

  54. Sue Perttu

    You are an exceptional teacher and fun to watch. I think you could create a cardigan sweater that anyone could wear. Pullovers are too restricting ,in my opinion ,with weight issues like I have.

  55. I’ve been fat and I’ve been skinny and hated something about my body no matter what. We have to accept that most of our appearance is either genetic or determined by our microbiome. It isn’t all calories in and calories out. The real goal has to be just being as healthy as possible and that isn’t even the same prescription for everyone. I could never be vegan because I’m allergic to chlorophyll! For me, meat is my health food. For you it might be something else. If your doctor only says “lose weight” you need a new doctor. The point is, step away from the mirror and just take care of your health. But also, know that most of the women that you are teaching would love to be able to make nice things for the men in our lives and most of those men look a lot more like you than Brad Pitt! A sweater pattern from you would be amazing!

  56. Patricia

    I appreciate your honesty. I am overweight and have the same hesitancy in making items for myself. I will never look as good in them as the models. I learned the craft from my grandmother who was more of a knitter. I keep doing it because she taught me to do it and to love doing it. Keep doing what you are doing. You have inspired me, and I don’t believe I am the only one. God bless you in 2022.

  57. Judith A Gannon

    I was touched by your confession and inspired to do even more exploring in 2022. I won’t pretend that I know what you’re feeling, but as a frustrated (read untrained and uneducated in the field) counselor I can’t help but offer this: you will either lose the weight and feel better about yourself, or you will feel better about yourself and lose the weight, It will happen, the choice is yours as to when,

    I am a retired senior woman who learned to crochet from my great-aunt when I was a teenager. Well, more correctly, I learned how to make ripple weave afghans. That was it … ripple weave afghans. For 45 years off and on that’s all I met. Then I found you! I am proud to say I’ve learned many new stitches, make things from dog beds to hats to pillows, and none of which I would’ve made without your help and encouragement. I’ve emailed you more than once and you’ve responded timely and kindly. You are a treasure. If you forget everything else in the email, don’t forget that…you are a treasure. Someday you’ll feel that way about yourself an you’ll break the ties that bind. you. I for one can’t wait for that to happen.

    Judy Gannon

  58. James

    The male crochet thing speaks to me. I’ve been doing crochet off and on since I was a kid, and got into it more when I moved to the South and needed some cold-weather gear. What they sell as scarfs and hats wouldn’t have passed as early Fall gear up North where I grew up! Plus, I travel a lot, and it’s a craft I can easily take with me.

    I’ve noticed a few limits as a male who does crochet.

    First, it’s not something I can really talk about. If someone asks where I got my hat (I make one every year, which one of my kids inevitably steals by the end of the winter) I have to brace myself for an uncomfortable conversation at best, and frequently verbal abuse. It’s not “manly” (never mind I’ve seen documentation of crochet being used, and possibly originating in, ships of war). I feel that I’m supposed to treat it as a shameful secret, something they can’t stop me from indulging in but which I’m supposed to keep out of the eyes of polite company.

    Second, patterns are hard to find. Hats, scarfs, and a few other odds and ends are common enough, almost always as “Gifts to make your man”, but at least they exist. But if you want something like a vest you have to dig pretty deep to find it. And unfortunately that’s about all we’re supposed to make, apparently. There’s just not much we’re supposed to want made out of crochet.

    Given my personality, my general response has been “Screw that, I’m going to have fun anyway.” I grew up around men who worked with their hands, and to me there’s nothing more masculine than turning an idea into a concrete fact, especially one that improves someone’s life. Plus, sometimes when you travel for work you need to do something to connect with family; making a blanket or a scarf or a hat for your kids serves that role, while also allowing you to kill time productively in a hotel room. I just wish I didn’t have to constantly explain this to people. And I wish that there were a few more options. A scarf is a good way to learn a stitch, but what do you do with 50 of them?

  59. RosaLinda Valle Guerra

    PLEASE MIKEY ,don’t be sad about your weight. We all are having that heart sorrow! Every time we ever LOOK IN THE MIRROR 🪞 OR TRY NEW CLOTHES. Try to cut on your food in have. Cut the SODA AND DIET SODA IS NOT GOOD FOR YOU AND ME. GOING slowly I got it out of my life. It’s not easy!!!!!! I HATE IT WHEN YOUR SAD 😔 😟 YES CROCHET IS WHAT MAKES ME HAPPY!!! I HAVE FEELED SO BLESS 🙌 IN FINDING YOU BOTH!!!!! YOU BOTH ARE LIKE FAMILY. THANKYOU.
    NOW TAKE A DEEP BREATH!!! CAUSE YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!!!!!!!! LOVE ALWAYS ❤ ROSALINDA HERE IN PUERTO RICO

  60. lisa

    i think you hit the nail on the head. being a larger person too I wish I could have a sweater pattern that fit me. would love one for my 6 foot 4 375 lb husband. even a cardigan. finding patterns for larger folks that fit right is difficult. your aren’t alone in your body issues and journey. I have always wished to be skinnier should have listened to myself when I was skinny.

  61. Shurtorra

    Oh hunny you most definitely are not alone. I see a lot of things that I would love to crochet and wear but because I am plus sized I can’t because many designers don’t design as big as I need something to be. I also LOVE making things for babies (mostly baby blankets), it helps me deal with missing not being able to have babies of my own. So much like you, I have found things to fill voids.

  62. Angie Scott

    I have never made a garment, either, tho I am making a vest. Lightweight for three season enjoyment. The animals are so cute and I, too, love watching them take shape, knowing that I did that. (Tho my No Drama Llama is still in the works and has been FULL of drama!) For me, I love making for others who either can’t make for themselves or who appreciate the love I put into making it.. for them. What I want to share is that in crafting, and life, you need to do what makes you happy and forget what society thinks is acceptable. There will always be a Scrooge or a Negative Nancy. You are not here to make 100% of the people happy 100% of the time. It is impossible. So focus on what makes YOU happy. YOLO and life is far too short to worry about others. Except those in your circle. And you, most importantly. Thank you for baring your fear.. we love ya, Mikey! Be you ❤️

  63. Vicki Hassan

    Your talents are breathtaking, utterly amazing. I have many of the same self doubts but without much of the creativity you possess. The closest I have come to making a wearable for myself was a pocket shawl, and even that I worry at times that it will further emphasis my overly plus size. Add a host of other issues (ADHD, depression, trauma from treatment by peers growing up) and I have been unable to take the risks, to try many things. Crochet is my escape, my therapy. Because of you and more recently Helen Shrimpton, I have tried many new things the last 18 months or so. I am making things I never dreamed I could. Wearables I think will be my next challenge. Much the same I have really wanted to make myself a sweater but have been terrified to try. I let my self doubts and body loathing stop me. By comparison you are not much overweight, I would be ecstatic to be like you but how others see us isn’t as paralyzing as how we see ourselves. A new year is coming and hopefully more achievements for all of us, more barriers broken down and more letting the joy of the process take over. I can’t wait to see what amazing things wait for all of us. I am truly thankful for you.❤️

  64. Marcia

    Mikey, I get it, different hesitations for me, but still, I limit myself way more than you do. We do not all wear the same size hat, gloves, socks. Some of us prefer tiny toys, some want large ones we can hug. Perhaps you can learn to view sweaters in the same way. Do you wear sweaters? Is there a design of one you really like? Do you feel good in it? If so, you could feel good in the one you make once you get past measuring. When you feel ready, perhaps measure the sweater that fits well rather than yourself? That tiny bit of separation may help you through your first sweater. You could focus on it at it as a guide for others who have similar trepidations to start a sweater, look at it as a teaching moment much as a toy or shawl for others, rather than a personal moment since you have so much joy in teaching. For now learning more embroidery, creating more toys will still bring you joy. Whatever you choose – you bring joy to so many. It would be awesome to see the extra dose of joy when you wear a sweater you made. Just a thought… or two.

  65. Sandra Duke

    Loved your blog (is that how you say it??!
    Spoken as a real person 🤗. I honestly didn’t think about the inside of the Nutcracker until I watched the video!! Fantastic work!
    I love watching you ❤

  66. Ali (UK fan)

    Hi Mikey.
    Thank you for being so honest in your blog. A lot of what you said resonated with me – I am female, but also due to my weight I have never made anything other than a hat for myself. My biggest joy is when I am able to gift an item too someone who genuinely likes it and uses it – whether to family, friends or to charity. I also love to crochet for the sake or crocheting – with no idea at all what I will be able to do with the finished item.
    I learned to crochet from your online tutorials and strangely, crochet helped me lose a lot of weight (I lost 126 pounds but have put about 28 back on over Covid period) – I lost weight because my hands were occupied and so I couldn’t sit and snack !

    Anyway, thank you again for your wonderful videos and designs, your blogs, and EVERYTHING! You are a star!

  67. Lianne

    I do feel very limited. You have pushed me farther along than I ever could imagine. Without your patterns and tutorials I wouldn’t have completed so many beautiful blankets,llama,fat cat. I would love to try a cardigan,but it scares the hell out of me. Especially with no tutorial to back me up❤️

  68. Frankie Zacharias

    I am overweight and very seldom ever make anything for myself, I find tremendous joy in making amigurumi or as i call them “stuffies” for friends and family. I have made a few afghans but people end up selling them for super cheap at garage sales after a few years so i stopped making them but the stuffies i make for the kids get played with til they fall apart which luckily is a few years later, lol. I love your joy of crocheting, you have taught me so very much.

  69. Dona

    Mikey — thanks for your insights into self. I share many of your observations. I create blankets, afghans, throws, baskets, scarves, hats, etc. because I can. I learn new stitches by following others’ creativity. Most of my items are gifts or charity donations — I rarely keep anything for myself. And amigurumi — grandkids and childrens’ hospitals eat those things up. Crochet is meditation for me — a way of destressing. For me, trying to crochet a sweater for myself would cause me stress for the same reasons that you don’t make wearables — being an overweight 70-something short woman who never sees herself in the catalogs, well, I really don’t know how that sweater or shrug would look on me. So, Mikey, should you journey into wearables in 2022, I might just follow you. Again — thanks for your insight and your creativity. And here’s to a safer and saner 2022.

  70. Christine

    Thank you for sharing your perspective. I love to crochet, but with limited time I stick to small things and what I know. I’m super interested in trying newer and bigger things, but lack skill and confidence. Wearables are a challenge because I just don’t understand how to modify and shape for size adjustment. I’m with you—I can’t “see” ahead to the finished project!

  71. Jacqueline

    I love this, yes I hear you. I guess insecurities effect us all in one way or another. I appreciate that You are so honest and public with your feeling, it makes you relatable. My unsolicited advise to you is to quietly, without any fanfare chose a fantastic yarn and create. It’s what you were born to do. Be as charitable to yourself as you are to others. Make your masterpiece and wear it proudly even if only in private. Life is short…too short. Shine your light❤️ Happy New Year

  72. Rebecca

    Mikey, your honesty and vulnerability choked me up. I appreciate you for bringing these things to light.

    I get the joy of giving things away with no strings. I make crochet dolls of color and never charge for them. Crocheting for a fee brings me too much stress even though I have been offered a lot of money to do a doll. The joy of giving things away has NO equal.

    We love you and I have no doubt you can learn whatever you put your mind to learn. We do look forward to watching your progress.

  73. Kim

    Mikey my joy is making toys! I don’t make many afghans but I love looking at all of yours and yhe beautiful designs and thwy seem so intimidating. I just think….all those ends to weave in…..ugh. Jump into the world of amigurumi, I would love to see what you cone up with! Happy hooking!

  74. Debbie

    Oh man I feel you!
    I’ve been crocheting for close to 50 years but until last year I never made a “big” project for myself and to show a picture of something I made I was never the model (heaven forbid). Well last year I decided to try the boyfriend cardigan, my intent was to sell it but I didn’t have a model handy when I finished it, so tried it on and snapped a pic, to my surprise it wasn’t half bad and I kept it and made myself 3 more!

    PS
    I saw you on the news the other day and guess what was sent to me several times over by friends 😉

  75. Joy

    Mikey, Why don’t you try a plain, sleeveless pullover, and using a thinner yarn, not too chunky to start with? You might find you like it 😊 Maybe add sleeves after if you feel comfortable with it… Just an idea x

  76. Tamara cameron

    Dear Mikey, I am a 51 year old overweight English woman now living in Nova Scotia,Canada.
    When I first came here I found it incredibly difficult to adjust. I was homesick and believe it or not the culture shock was real!
    I found it really difficult to make friends and as I was unable to work due to my immigration status at the time I was very lonely.
    I found your videos and through watching them learned to crochet. Crocheting things that no one would ever see except me was my therapy! I actually never once thought about your weight or gender, just how enthusiastic and great at teaching you were.
    Thank you for sharing with us, you are Awesome! just the way you are!
    Thank you for teaching me to crochet and don’t let your demons define you!! Even if they try their hardest.
    Much love to you ❤️

  77. Cat Bardwell

    I love the joy you give with each new pattern! I have learned so much from you, Mikey, and stretched my crochet to new horizons! Thank you for all the knowledge you share, but most of all, for sharing your heart! God bless you! Cat B

  78. Debbie

    Hi Mikey, I’ve just read your recent blog and I agree that it can be hard to create clothing if you don’t feel comfortable with who you are when you look in the mirror! I avoid making wearables except shawls, scarves hats etc, but as a female I can wear them out and about.
    I love watching you learn new techniques and teaching them so I just want to say thank you for the inspiration that you give. You honestly are inspirational and I hope you believe it. Please keep learning and trying new things and then show us all about it.

  79. I think I’ve done something similar I often crochet blanket scarves things like that there is a jacket I would really love to make. I think for me A lot of times the piecing of stuff together seems very tedious so I steer away from it cuz I don’t find any joy in those things but it is part of the process. I did Branch out and learn how to make snowflakes this past Christmas so that was a big deal for me

  80. Vallery LaBarre

    When I taught myself to crochet 10 years ago, I started with Amigurumi. It came naturally to me and I was soon creating all kinds of toys, even altering patterns to cover my mistakes. One of my first was a tea cup. Except I made the brown “liquid” too large for the cup part, so I altered it to look like the tea was spilling out. Shaping the item with increasing and decreasing, seeing how pieces fit, sewing them together, it all makes sense somehow. I haven’t tried designing, but I bet I could.

    What doesn’t make sense is keeping sides straight and pieces flat. Ugh! I am so thankful my kids don’t mind my mistakes because they’ve gotten some seriously wavy blankets. I have no idea what I’m doing wrong and watching a video of someone doing it right doesn’t help. (If I could even figure out which video to watch.) That and graphgans. Those things are intimidating!

    Thank you for being you. I understand where you’re coming from and, no, you’re not being ridiculous. Your concerns are part of why I’ve never bothered to even try clothing. Sending you love and light and sweater making strength.

  81. Kathryn Snow

    Oh, Mikey…. You speak from MY heart… While I am not male, so many of the designs for apparel are not designed to be flattering to a plus-size person’s wallet… I have ADHD, Depression, Anxiety, and I struggle on so many levels. Feeling fat and inadequate is my constant cycle and crochet helps me feel better in 2 ways. The feeling of accomplishment when completing a project, then the feeling of joy when I gift that item… Thank you for being honest and I hope to have your kind of clear insight into myself someday. Thank you so much for ALL you are, and do for us!!

  82. Vivella

    I’m a overweight women and the times I get the most compliments about my appearance is when I have made my own clothes. Years of experience has got me to a point I can adapt a pattern to suit me. Whether it’s being outside the size range or changing the yarn weight as quite frankly as anything above dk is simply too hot as I’m also of that age of hot flushes. I’d like to see you do men’s clothes as there is very little out there for men. Size inclusivity for women is much better than it used to be, but for men the design range is still very poor and inclusivity is non existent. There is a great sense of achievement in making clothes for myself and owning how good I look and feel. It’s time to respect and embrace yourself for who you are.

  83. Oana-Maria

    I feel exactly the same. I’ve started a cardigan for myself 2 years ago. It’s 95%finished but I can’t find the energy to complete the project because I will have to wear it after, right? And it doesn’t compliment my figure. I crochet toys from time to time, baby sets and when I find a beautiful pattern for a sweater I make the child size for my kids. I love making bags! I’ve made some for myself and for some friends, I am trying to sell some so I can sustain my passion. I’ve been lucky enough to be accepted as a tester for a bosnian stich crochet cowl.it give me so much joy and made me feel amazing after finishing the project. What I will like is to focus more, to start a project and finish it. I usually have 5,6 or more wips at a time.

  84. Lene Iversen

    Oh Mikey, I’m not male, but can relate. Both to the weight issues, but also being intimidated by all the possibilities and my own lack of skill. Give me a pattern, and there is nothing I can’t make. But ask me to design my own, and I am stuck. I have made sweaters with varying succes. I have even tried making one modeled after my favorite jacket (big disaster as I forgot the jacket had shoulderpads and my attempt didn’t 😃 and the yarn was awful, but hey, we live and learn).
    I think it is a shame, that there aren’t more patterns for males. I think a lot of women would love to make stuff for the men in their lives, and that it could bring even more men into the fold. There are patterns to be had on ravelry and Etzy, and there are youtubers who make some as well (bag-o-day-chrochet comes to mind), but yarnspirations is a bit poor for them.

    Mikey, make a sweater for your self. It doesn’t have to be a tutorial. It doesn’t have to be a show piece. If it’s ugly or 3 sizes too small, laugh your wonderful laugh and make another. Before you know it, you will have made something, that you will wear with pride – and will want to show it to us 🙂

  85. I get bored with amigurumi after a while. I think it’s because so much of it is single increase and decrease in rounds. My thing right now is exploring textures. The Calming Afghan is only the second project where I’m using multiple textures in one project. I am loving it. I think soon I am going to do some freestyle and just see what comes out of my creation. 🥰

  86. Sarah Hannis

    Why not make something with sole intention of it being worn around the house. Become comfortable wearing a crocheted garment in private. No need to share with anyone (except Daniel – he’d probably notice anyway – lol) until you’re ready. Perhaps a waistcoat or sleeveless top that could be covered with a zipped hoodie with a sneaky peak of crochet? You can’t tell me that layering’ isn’t a thing in Nova Scotia… 😉
    Perhaps use a finer yarn so it doesn’t feel bulky (like my first garment did in aran weight). Perhaps base it on something you already wear?
    You can do this! It does feel nice to wear something you’ve made especially when you’ve reached the limit of shawls, scarves and beanies. If it doesn’t turn out right, frog it.
    xx

  87. Amanda Nappier

    Mikey, i completely feel you on being afraid to make things because of the what ifs. Your study of geometry stitch along was the first large project i had crocheted as I’m rather new to the craft. Thankfully with the support of my family i felt bold enough to take on the challenge of making 4 more for Christmas presents and thoroughly enjoyed how well they were received. My favorite part through the journey of making them was definitely being able to watch you stitch on the sample and have you guide me through all the stitches i had never even heard of! (That double treble crochet is a monster). I’m also determined to make a sweater this year, my husband has been asking me to make him one for years and I’ve never felt confident enough to make one. This year i will conquer the sweater curse fear and make sure that i pick something i know he’ll look nice in as he’s also larger and i don’t want him to have those same insecurities you’re feeling about what i make him. We’ll make this our year!

  88. Janice

    You are definitely not the only one who feels like that. I’d love to make myself something to wear, but I am overweight with no confidence to tackle anything. I do know it would have to be a lighter weight yarn, as anything thicker than a dk makes me feel like the Michelin Man. Plus I tend to overheat easy. Maybe you could make a dk sweater with a mosaic design. Something based on a traditional Nova Scotian pattern.

  89. Anna

    Oh heavens. Yes yes yes. Your comments about your weight and not wanting to make a sweater for those reasons… spot on. I will annually make something for myself and then gift it because it doesn’t hang right on my body. I don’t have solutions but wanted to reach out and say that others feel the same and you’re not alone. Hugs

  90. Renee

    I have always had a desire to craft for myself but I CANNOT DO clothing to save my life. I wish I could. I have tried sewing clothes for me but never fits the way I feel it should even after adding here and there being tall. Crocheting is the same way. I want to crochet me a sweeter or something. Me and gauge do not get along. One I forget and two I hate gauge and because of that it doesn’t fit. Its so frustrating. Sounds easy to fix but can’t. I did make one forgiving cardigan. After several tries I was pleased but after wearing it once the yarn just looked bad. I stick with blankets because they are safe and I don’t get as discouraged but I get bored then I choose something challenging and it sits there half made, not because I can’t but because it takes more of me than I can give at that moment. But It does feel good to see the joy the finished project can bring to others, it is so amazing. I sell nothing, just give them away because I do not feel I am good enough to sell anything.

  91. Gail

    Michael, I love whatever you choose to share with us. I’d love to learn more toy making, too. I do however, feel that you are too hard on yourself. You are you; I love you as you are, and wish you could learn to love you the way you are, too.

  92. CazT

    Mikey I LOVE your work and your honesty!
    From the first day I stumbled onto one of your tutorials I knew that with your help I could accomplish just about any crochet project.
    I have learned so much from watching your tutorials, and unlike some, I don’t follow patterns very well as I NEED to see how they are done. Most likely I’d be able to follow a pattern once I have see it done and made it myself.
    I am a visual being in the first instance!
    Please know that we, as your community, will always love and support you. Like when you were going to film a pattern every day/week the other year, we could see that while the concept was pretty darned awesome, you would burn yourself out. We can’t have a burned out Mikey who is our craft rock and crochet guru. God knows we and you are only human and we need your joy <3
    Thank you so much for sharing your experiences and showing us the way to create amazing things.
    Wishing you many blessings and a wonderful 2022.

  93. Lorraine Ulmer

    You are a wonderful man and should not feel bad about yourself. Crocheting blankets for children with problems make my life fulfilled. You give us all the ability to be happy eith our projects. Love you.

  94. Carol Ann Reams

    I can identify with what you have written about not crocheting for yourself as an overweight – and in my case – 64 year old female. Actually I knit, too, and don’t create wearables for me that way, either.

    Living in the Tampa Bay area of Florida, USA, I really don’t need heavy/thick wearables. Crocheting with worseted weight yarn and the usual hook sizes for this yarn some consider ‘bulky weight’ tend to accentuate the ‘looking fat’ issue. Since I’ve gone this far, I may as well be honest – depending on manufacturer, my clothes go from 1X to 4X.

    There isn’t much available for plus size folks that are flattering looking – in my opinion. Quite a bit of that still only goes to 2x if the pattern gauge is true to size, so redesigning the pattern has to be done.

    So I create for others. My biggest joy is making something that looks complicated, but really isn’t. Or simply making something, unique, from yarn and personalizing the item for one specific person.

  95. Melissa

    This resonated with me in so many ways. You spoke to my heart when you described how you feel about making a sweater. And while there are many designs out there to fit me (as a plus size woman), I still hesitate to make my clothes. I also worry that my initial works would not be good enough to allow me to blend in with those who are smaller.

    Thank you for expressing these very private thoughts so honestly. Your courage in putting these words out there will give us courage as well.

    I would also like to encourage you to design for yourself. I know many of the men in my life are shaped just like you. If you have designed a piece for yourself and modeled it, your female followers can be certain it will fit our sons and husbands. But more importantly, other male hookers can feel empowered to do the same!

    You ask what we have leaned into, I enjoy making hair scrunches, hacky-sack-type balls, small Amigurumi projects and blankets scarves and the standard fare. Colors are a particular passion of mine and I love finding just the right blend of color and texture for a purpose.

  96. Anna Favor

    My best friend who is now deceased taught me how to crochet. I think I crochet to remind me of her. I never Think my work is any good, but people around me tell me how beautiful it is. I so enjoy watching your videos. You teach me so many new stitches that I never thought I could do. But because of your teaching I find myself able to do it.

    I think we all struggle with something in our lives. I find that Crocheting and seeing a final product makes me feel better. I have donated to the infant crisis center they are very appreciative, which also makes me feel good.

    Thank you for doing what you do.

  97. Dawn D.

    Mikey Mikey Mikey! This article spoke so loudly to me! I too have yet to crochet myself something, like a sweater, for fear of how it will look but I know one day I will get to it. Right now I’m doing things for everyone else. I have enjoyed doing amigurumi (?) and have made my daughter a cute little mermaid (and used harsh words for the hair! Hahaha!) I admire your skill & watch your videos to relax. I am in awe of what you come up with and how you do it so fantastically! Your comfort in crochet is amazing and I aspire to be that comfortable. My next endeavor, once I get done with my current “not for me project” is freeform crochet. I feel it will help me become more comfortable with creations/stitches. You are doing a fantastic job at teaching and sharing! Thank you so much for that!

  98. Jen

    Thank you for addressing this. I took up crochet as a stress relief project knowing that I could create and gift the cool patterns I find online or purchase. Blankets, touques and slippers were quick and easy and make amazing baby presents. But I can only gift my brothers with so many touques or scarves and I really struggle with clothing. A few years ago I tried a bunny and recently found a turtle, a Dinosaur and the ever important star wars characters. Putting eyes on, shaping cheeks, and watching my friends relish the efforts I’ve gone through and look forward to receiving for the next baby, it’s super satisfying. And then there are the projects just for me. The ones I want to keep forever. I love the things I’ve learned and especially when I am able to follow along with your videos or the challenges. If you find wearable patterns for your body type I would love to see them, they’re are many men in my circle with similar body type who want something but I refuse to let them wear 70s crochet overalls and so I refuse to spend the time to make something I won’t let them wear.
    Thank you for your time, energy and for sharing your love of crochet.

  99. 💕 Love you, Mikey! When I saw the title of this post, I thought it might be written just for me. I sometimes do feel limited, scared, and I often worry that I am so sedentary with this hobby I love so much. So many thoughts here, so much love to you, and gratitude. Thank you for the inspiration and thoughtfulness in all that you create.

  100. Mona

    Mikey,
    I, too am overweight and have never made any clothing for myself. I have always feared that it would make me stand out in a crowd, which is not something that I would ever want. I have been crocheting since I was eight years old and I have been considering making a lightweight bamboo yarn cardigan for myself this year for the first time. Maybe 2022 is the year for you too!!!
    Stay true to you!! You are an excellent crocheter and teacher with a great personality!!!

  101. Ruth Richardson

    Good grief! I thought you were writing my story!! I rarely make anything for myself but I recently saw a pattern for a granny square coat and thought, “that’s for me”. I followed the pattern to the letter, including colours, tried it on and nearly died! Here’s the problem – the pattern included a tall, slim woman wearing spike heel shoes and it looked amazing. So – I used to be 5′ 6″ (add 2″ for high heels) and weighed about 120 lbs. Operative words: “used to be”. In my old age, I’ve shrunk to 5′ 4″, no longer wear heels and gained weight after quitting smoking. Ah, well – I’ve always wanted a granny square afghan!!
    I love doing ami’s. Did your llama and called her Dolly. Other projects this year included a witch, cat, rabbit, Woodstock and Snoopy, hedgehogs and a giraffe (your pattern). My problem is with assembly – hate that part! Also did a bunch of Christmasy things as well
    I also donated lap quilts, shawls and afghans to a local church for seniors homes. So you can see why I thought you were writing my story. I’ve resigned myself to never being a fashion statement. Hats and mitts (occasional knitting) and whatever as long as my hands are busy. So you can see why I thought you were writing my story.
    Go ahead and make that sweater for yourself. I believe you recently lost weight so co for it. I am currently crocheting a cardigan for myself! LOL LOL

  102. Darlene

    I don’t make clothing for the same reasons as you. Instead I make a lot of hats and blankets for donating. For myself I make bags. Oh Lord, I have enough bags to last my lifetime, even with giving half away, and I still want to make more. And the same with shawls, which I do wear even though my son says they make me look like an old lady.

    I have been on a new lifestyle plan where I am losing weight but still have a long way to go. Maybe in a couple of years I’ll feel like making myself a sweater or summer top.

  103. Oh, Mikey, I hate that you feel this way. You have this talent that brings immense joy to others and I am thankful that I have found you. Now I challenge you to do things that bring joy to you. I am 56 years and I have discovered that I can wear anything I want and the only people I embarrass are my kids! I learned to crochet at 7 yo but gave it up for a very long time. I too make a lot of blankets but mu sister finds things to challenge me. She saw a knitted chicken(yes, chicken, in a shop and sent me a picture. I accepted her challenge and made my own crochet version in less than a day! I am not sure if anyone needs a crochet chicken but it brought joy to many in my family. So you do you and don’t let others extinguish your happiness!❤

  104. Jen Struss

    As a larger woman I can definitely identify with feeling limited when it comes to crocheting clothing for sure. However, I find immense joy in making all of the things for others. I’ve made several baby blankets, scarves, hats and more recently I’ve been asked to crochet several amigurumi items. Admittedly, I don’t love every aspect of the amigurumi (sewing the parts together for example-it’s a b*tch to make sure things that come in twos are sewn on evenly). I will say though, that every end product makes me happy and seeing a person’s reaction when they receive said item fills my heart with endless joy!

  105. Dear Mikey,
    As to your first thoughts on crocheting for yourself: Self conscienceness is a Jail we put ourselves into and I refuse to sentence myself to such a defeating thing. I won’t do it to myself. We get one chance to be ourselves fully and you should crochet for yourself, anything you want to. In fact, the most attractive thing in the world is self acceptance and self confidence. I married my hubbs for his confidence.
    So, free yourself and crochet whatever you want to wear in your dreams and wear it in private if you wish. Thank you for trusting us with your thoughts. All the best, Michelle.

  106. sandra smith

    you make it sound like your huge, but your not. your look perfectly fine for the male body. i know this may be a phobia of yours, but always remember that somewhere out there is someone who wishes they were your weight and not theirs.
    please make your sweater. choose the color that looks best on you and a style that is flattering to your body shape.
    please listen to this very over weight lady.
    sandra

  107. Wendy

    My crochet started with baby sweaters because I lacked the confidence to make something an adult would wear however, fairly recently I discovered how much I enjoy creating amigurumi (sp?) animals and I really enjoyed it. I was asked to make a horse for a baby shower and I am really proud of how it came out. My skills are growing.

  108. Jerry Brown

    I feel what you say. I met you at the Texas Yarn retreat. It’s been years since I have seen you and Daniel. I learned how to crochet from your videos. I too make things for everyone else. I want a sweater, but will I look horrible or too feminine? You encourage us all the time and I thank you so much for that!
    Keep up the god work! And who knows, maybe you will come back to Texas for an all guys Retreat!

  109. Susan Baker

    Your post spoke to my heart. I feel like the master of blankets, scarves, a few other things but my body ‘shape’ size keeps me from completing any personal garments cuz they never fit. It’s discouraging to the point of not wanting to create anything. But I watch you and you encourage me to try something new like Minnie. You press on so I know there is hope for my creativity. I am the artist – even after 55 years of crocheting. Love yourself, love your partner, love your artistry. Here’s to new things learned in 2022.

  110. DoreenC63

    I am a luxury-sized gal and nothing sucks like spending ages creating a garment that is utterly unflattering and ripping it out. And that’s after scouring the world looking for size-inclusive patterns. I feel you. <3

  111. Julie Hodson

    I love everything about crocheting. From printing the pattern, to the purchasing of yarn. And when I’m finished my project (May be months from now!) I get great comfort from winding and labelling and storing the left over yarn. I love recalling the people who taught me this art.
    I have worked with aunt Lydia’s yarn size 10 and made doilies and tablecloths and Christmas stars and bells.
    I have made stuffed toys, ponchos, afghans. Never clothing. I don’t like to stress out about the outcome. If it isn’t fun for me, I won’t do it. IT HAS TO BE FUN. I also quilt and have rejected many patterns because just looking at the patterns give me the heebie jeebies.
    I crocheted for my daughters, grandchildren and now preparing to make Millie the Mouse for my great granddaughter due in May❤️
    I have crochet patterns that I have saved on my laptop for years and years, knowing someday the time would be right. I’m currently working on nativity figures, from a pattern I’ve had for ages.
    Weirdest thing I’ve crocheted was a boob nursing baby hat!
    This is a very long comment but I think I’ve touched the high points and now I’ve forgotten what your question is!
    Don’t sweat the sweater issue. You can buy such lovely sweaters!

  112. Ruth Andrews

    💗💗 Love you for you. Love your honesty. Love your patterns. Have a blessed New Year.

  113. Sheryl

    Dear Mikey, please know that first and foremost, you are unconditionally loved. You are loved by your family, your friends and your CC group of friends. You are a handsome, gifted, talented man who has taught me SO much in crochet. You taught me to love crochet! I love seeing your joy when I watch a video you so carefully created. Please know how much we appreciate you, dear one. Hugs. ❤️❤️

  114. Crystal

    You are not alone. I struggle with the same body issues and haven’t made myself anything (for the same reasons that you mentioned) even though I wish I could. Love you!!

  115. Melissa

    Thank you for being honest. I can relate to similar feelings. I tend to crochet for charity. I always say I am going to make something for me but never do. I make toys and gives them away. I love being able to make ponies for kids with cancer. I may struggle with my issues and fears but knowing I am making gifts for kids helps me move past my fears and insecurities and think of the kids first. Maybe next year I will make something for me. Thanks for being you.

  116. I understand what you are saying. I make ponchos vs sweaters because making sleeves scares me. And yes, I am a plus size. Please don’t regret your size, Mikey. Love yourself inside and out! Make a list of all your positives and make a list of what holds you back. Throw that list away and delete those files from your mind. I hope you can see yourself as others see you- as a wonderful teacher, encourager, and someone who mixes in laughter with talent. So try that sweater(I am going to this year), wear the scarf even if you just wrap it around your neck like a muffler. Be yourself and love who you are as we do.

  117. Madeline

    You should design a cardigan. Every body shape looks good in a cardigan, and if it’s simple pieces in a simple stitch, it can be adapted for different sizes, easily. I, and many others, judging from the questions every year, would love some patterns we could hook up for the men in our lives, beyond scarves and hats.

    You’re the first online crocheted I followed, and I’m still following you, more than a decade later. Your passion and easygoing way of explaining things makes you one of the best people to learn from. Lease don’t ever stop.

  118. Misti Rambo

    I feel the same way about wearables! I just stay away from them. Amigurumi is my fav! Checkout Jess Huff! All her patterns are free and super easy to follow and adapt so if you want to learn to make your own and checkout the techniques she outlines it is amazing!

  119. Marsha Dodson

    I say I want to make a sweater or vest for myself, but I too am scared to try. I am overweight and those skinny models terrify me. You are certainly not alone. Thanks for all you do for crochet crafting world.

  120. Dorothy Schmidt

    I’m with you! I don’t crochet much in clothes for me because I am a very overweight woman. I made one exception and that was because it was required for a crochet course I took with Pauline Turner. Crochet is my passion. It has been life saving for me.
    If you want some excellent coping strategies, listen to a podcast, broadcast on Dec. 28, 2021, by Dr. Phil. Go (type in) to Phil in the blanks. It might be life changing for you.
    Your fan and follower. Dorothy P. Schmidt. Chicago,Il.

  121. Rose

    Making things for others that make them happy brings me the most joy. But I’d never be able to do it of It weren’t for you. I was ready to give up on crochet until I found you on YouTube. As a visual learner watching you made it all click. I don’t want to get all sappy but watching what you create gives me confidence to at least try. Does everything turn out perfect? Nope. But I still enjoy the process of it all.

  122. Mikaela Hanley

    I am limited in time and by the pain in my arm. I always want to do more and try new things but can’t. My roundness prevents me from making garments for myself. I, too, am frustrated by the lack of male oriented patterns, although my most complicated piece was a cardigan for my husband.

  123. Julia

    Hey Mikey 🙂
    First off, I wanted to tell you that you’ve been inspiring me since I was a little kid. That gift of helping someone accomplish something they didn’t know they could? You’ve been giving that to me for years (I’m 18) 🙂

    In this world we’re living in, it can be really hard to have a healthy and satisfying relationship body image. Especially, I can imagine, for men, because we talk about it less for men than we do with women. If you’re a girl (and if you’re lucky), you grow up with people telling you, “Don’t listen to all of the media telling you to look a certain way – own who you are!” But guys aren’t always raised with the same guidance, and I think that’s a shame, because you face an equally ridiculous pressure to look a certain way as well.
    You know, not that it matters what I think, but I’m proud of you for addressing this yourself and putting this much-needed conversation out there.

    Also, I hope that someday you’re able to make that sweater and own it. No pressure either way, and I’m not suggesting you should do it because of anything we comments-section people have to say about it (though I’m sure people are going to hop on here to remind you how handsome and worthy of a good sweater you are, because it’s true, lol). But I hope that, FOR YOU and YOU ALONE, you realize how amazing you are, that you learn to love yourself the way you are now, and that you face the task of making a great sweater and look in the mirror when you’re wearing it and see that you look amazing. Because you ARE amazing.

    Thanks for all you do and for sharing your journey, and thank you for teaching me so much through the years. Have a wonderful day, and (a little late, but) Merry Christmas!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  124. Susan Wortham

    I hate that you are struggling. I hate that society is constantly telling us who to be and what to like and then shaming us when we don’t fit. I have a little experience with that too. This is what I know:
    1) People come in all shapes and sizes, but it is the content of our character that determines our value. I am no skinny minny myself, but I will take fat and kind over skinny and rude any day.
    2) Creating is cool! And the more I create, the more I want to create. And I am going to make myself a cardigan soon….no pattern, just my own color ideas and some squares and then I will wear it. If other people think it is weird, they can just deal, because I get one life and it will be mine.
    3) I don’t know you, but you seem awesome. This nerdy woman and her nerdy wife agree that you are our kind of people. And we are picky.
    4) You are choosing the life you want and that takes courage. Keep it up, it is the only one you got and too short to be bossed around.
    5) You have two big fans in Oklahoma. If you are ever here, look us up and we will commiserate over some wine, beer or beverage of your choice. And some carbs….because I love carbs! 😂

    Carry on Mikey! You are kick-ass!

    Susan and Linda Wortham

  125. Joy

    I’m female, but have similar clothing size issues. I had trouble finding patterns in my size so I figured out how to adjust patterns to fit me. The good part was that I could try the garment on and adjust as I went! Now it’s much easier to find patterns, but also am able to tailor them to fit. I choose classic gender neutral patterns. I’m sick of making afghans after 2 years of COVID. I’m working on sweater number three of the the same boxy sweater keeping notes as I go of the adjustments I make. This style has been in style my entire adult life and trust me that’s a really long time! I can change the stitch to change them up. I’m the “Queen of Frogging”! I’m proud to wear them and am often asked wear I bought them. Jump on in Mikey! All it takes is one success.

  126. Wendy Marple

    I totally relate. When I was working full time and didn’t have a lot of crocheting time, it was disheartening to spend time on a garment and have it not work out. I did eventually invest in a class to learn about tweaking designs to fit me. I still don’t tend to make things for me because of the amount of yarn and the time it takes since I am overweight.
    I love making toys! I don’t design though and appreciate others who do design. I get attached to what I make but love being able to donate them. My family and extended family have benefited a lot from this. (They also all have afghans.) Recently I was overwhelmed with my makes, I took them to the police department. They keep a few in their cars and hand out to kids they come across in tough situations.
    I have also found a charity that likes to take crocheted items for bundles made for newborns born to a family in need.
    This year I am focusing on slowing down and not over committing to what I crochet. I want to really like what I am making and enjoy the process instead of rushing to get it done and make the next pattern. There will always be another pattern.
    If you got this far, thanks for reading my mini novel. 🙂

  127. Margret

    I think you are so funny, real and down to earth. I want to have fun with crochet like you show. Every time i watch a video you make me feel like i can actually start and be successful. I am determined to start. All those things you speak of make sense. I hope you feel a way past those hangups . I am bot sure i can offer advice since i dont walk in your shoes. I am so proud of you going out and owning the amazing crocheter you are (oops barely avoided saying crotch there!). I will start i promise because i want it to be fun and maybe do some type of sampler- they are freakin cool!! Wish the best in 2022!

  128. michelle jerome

    Yes! yes! yes! I can totally get what you are saying. As an overweight woman I also shy away from making sweater and tend to stay with hats, scarves and blankets. I also have been venturing into making toys and it gives me great joy to have them sitting on my bookshelf.

  129. Dave

    I know what you’re saying about doing yarn art and being a man. Everyone I’ve met at yarn stores has been friendly and helpful but I can’t help feeling like a bit of a curiosity. I’ve just started crochet (I mostly knit) but I’m drawn to how easily toys and other pieces can be made. Looking forward to learning more in 2022. New year, new skills to learn!😊

  130. Jennifer Marsden

    I do hope you find things to make to continue your wonderful crochet adventures. I live in a warm climate and find that blankets, scarves and beanies are never needed. My age and body shape stop me from ever contemplating garments and it’s too warm for grand babies to wear crocheted items. Or the mothers won’t put the items on the kids! I don’t like to use thread so that takes away doilies etc. so many times at a complete loss as to what yo crochet next. I usually end up with a blanket as they can at least look pretty on the bottom of a bed.
    Wishing you all the best Mike’s.

  131. Jilly Anderson

    Mikey, I’m the same. Sitting here surrounded by your sampler, calming comfort, and four others but no garments. I am fascinated by mosaic crochet and determined this year to master it. Don’t be hard on yourself. You are very loved. 🥰🥰

  132. Lisa R

    Please, please, please crochet your sweater. I’d love to be able to make one for my hubby. I first met you in Washington, NC in the hotel lobby at a tent sale. I had never heard of you and my first thought was what a nice young man. I didn’t see a fat man. I saw you, Daniel, Laurie and Jen having breakfast.

  133. Nancy P.

    If you do figure out how to crochet a man’s sweater, please do a video, aka lesson. I would love to make one.

  134. John J. Cole-Morgan

    You aren’t alone. I relate so much to your post. 44. 245lbs after a car crash where I was 115lbs then the pills pain and lack of exercise has lead to arthritis and well… I relate. Everyone can say how amazing you are. But if you can’t see it… I relate. You are brave to share. Thank you. Much love. John. X

  135. Jan

    Oh Mikey. You are so loved Your honesty about your struggles hit home. I’ve only recently completed my first wearable as an adult. I was morbidly obese for 2O plus years. I’m closer to average size now but still see myself as the fat kid. Measuring for garment construction is hard. I fell like if I follow the pattern it will be too small It frequently ends up too big so I have to frog or put it in time out. Many projects in time out. Lately I’ve been designing creating one off specialty items that will only always be one of a Kind. Labors of love for sure

  136. Brandi

    You’re definitely not alone in this. I related with a lot of this. I also don’t do wearables for the same reasons you stated. I used to keep to small items like dish cloths but here recently I’ve taken to making blankets. I’m currently working on a Tunisian sampler and it’s bringing me lots of joy because I’m learning and taking on a challenge. Tunisian is definitely where I’ve leaned into over the past couple of years. I look forward to seeing updates on your amigurumi journey for 2022.

  137. Tamara Humes

    I love to crochet items to make other’s happy. It gives me so much joy to see the look of happiness when I hand an item I crochet to someone. I usually do this to complete strangers at amusement parks. Mostly at Disneyland. I once had a little girl, about 5, run up and give me a big hug while I was walking down Main Street at Disneyland. I had no idea who she was. Her mom told me she had been looking for me because she still loves the item I had given her the year before. I always treasure that.

  138. Megan S. VanLoo-Grimm

    Michael, so much of this does resonate. I am hoping you can find joy in your beautiful self. Being overweight is a hard thing to deal with, my husband and I also struggle with it. I find making garments for myself tedious. I prefer making toys or blankets for others to enjoy. My husband gets a new hat each winter. I find your videos to be entertaining and full of great patterns to learn. Sending you love!

  139. Sandy

    Mikey, I think you should check out Joy of Motion Crochet. Janne designs sweaters and she’s a plus size. I love her designs and want to make a sweater from one of them.

  140. Monica

    Oh, Sweet Mikey. We do love you for your imperfections. Because if someone as successful as you can worry, why, that makes us ALL normal!!!
    My hangup is big projects. I make hats, scarves, shawls, baby blankets and small throws but never a big blanket. Ill work on that.
    My favorite thing is very small flat pin size crochet things. Like ornaments, mini stockings, butterflies, tiny fish, hearts. I then throw them into my letters, birthday cards, leave them as small gifts at dinners for a remembrance. Things like that. So, keep on crocheting. I was going to use the “H” word, but…LOL

  141. Susan Reid

    I am so excited that you are going to be getting more into amigurumi this year! You are hands down the best teacher, and I love your humor! I, too, deal with the guilt of being overweight, but you need to realize that other people don’t view you that way. When I think of Mikey, I only think of talent, humor, and a great teacher!!! Looking forward tolearning even more from you in ‘22!!

  142. Jessica

    You continue to amaze and inspire me to stay in crochet. From the first time I found crochet crowd group and your amazing teaching ways I knew I had a home. I LOVE you raw honesty and bravery to put yourself out here and giving so much. You and Daniel are good people. Family. Please remember to take care of yourself and never feel alone. Thank you again and I can’t wait to see what new talent you share in the future

  143. Brenda

    Hello from across the strait! I have only ever crocheted 1 sweater ,for myself! Umpteen hats for others..and am now TOTALLY ADDICTED to amigurumi! It is my sanity saver. I am by no means a “professional ” BUT with crochet hook in hand, I can leave the stresses (are there are many presently ) behind for a bit. You could totally create amigurumi patterns!! Much love ❤

  144. Melissa K

    I struggle with a lot of this as well. I donate most of my work, close to 100 hats for this year. But for the first time, I made for myself this year. I have a nice selection of hats, a blanket, I splurged on my first order of hand dyed yarn for a scarf, and I made myself my very first wearable – a cardigan. Making that cardigan made me feel so proud of myself. I continue saying, “I made this”! I had no idea on sizing and ended up with a very roomy cardigan, but I made it with my two hands. I’m looking at a sweater next and, again, worry about sizing and fit. I tend to dress a little baggy and plain to “blend” in, but the yarn I bought is colorful, and I went a size down than what I think I need to wear. It’s going to challenge me but I’m doing it. I’ll continue making for others, but I want things for me, too. Try what makes you curious and what gives you comfort. Test the waters on what gives you hesitation knowing that it’s okay to pull back. I don’t always take my own advice so this is easier said then done, but have patience and grace with yourself as you continue your life journey.

  145. Natalie

    Thank you for sharing your story. I feel this. I struggle with not liking my upper body. I see pics of women wearing hats and scarves and shawls and they look so good, but on me they look yuck. So, I (happily) make cat blankets.

  146. Cheri Morrison

    I am right there with you Mikey! I also tend to stay away from wearables but love your CALS & SALS! I have made a few amigurumi stuffies & find the most difficult thing is attaching feet/arms. In the New Year I plan on trying to tweak a pattern to incorporate the feet/arms into the body. Would love to see what you design!

  147. Mikey, you mention “Journey”..for the New Year 2022. Make this Your Personal Journey. There are 2 phrases, I tell my great granddaughter. I think you need to here them, and apply them for yourself. #1 You are Braver than you believe. Stronger than you seem and Smarter than you think. #2 You are Loved. You are valued. You are beautiful. This applies to all of us. Male or Female.. Alot of us feel the same way as you do. Make yourself a sweater…I’ve seen you in sweaters, you look wonderful. The same will be true of the sweater you make for yourself. It will be an emotional and wonderful gift to yourself. Blessings & Love, Barbara

  148. Sheri

    I’ve always been afraid to try making toys and amugrumi. I’m scared it won’t look right or I can’t do it. I’m in love with Millie the mouse and really want to push myself to try that. I love, love, love making and designing hats but so far have been afraid to put any of my own patterns out there.

  149. Mikey, you mention “Journey”..for the New Year 2022. Make this Your Personal Journey. There are 2 phrases, I tell my great granddaughter. I think you need to here them, and apply them for yourself. #1 You are Braver than you believe. Stronger than you seen and Smarter than you think. #2 You are Loved. You are valued. You are beautiful. This applies to all of us. Male or Female.. Alot of us feel the same way as you do. Make yourself a sweater…I’ve seen you in sweaters, you look wonderful. The same will be true of the sweater you make for yourself. It will be an emotional and wonderful gift to yourself. Blessings & Love, Barbara

  150. Jennifer Teager

    Thank you for sharing. I’m overweight too and don’t dare try to make any clothes. In addition, I live in south Texas so there is no need for scarves, hats or heavy blankets. I am so excited to try your mouse!

  151. Lu Langevin

    Mikey, while I am too an overweight crocheter, it does not bother me when people ask me for things. Currently I am working on the zoophonics animals for my oldest daughters daycare that she works at, that I am donating my time and materials for because these preschool kids love them. I have a long list of things that people want and if they pay for them then they get done first, if not then I get them done when I can and in between projects. Crocheting helps keep my hands and mind busy so that I don’t munch (which as we all know does not help the weight thing at all lol), it also helps with my anxiety attacks for the most part by keeping my mind focused on something. Never feel that you have to limit yourself because of the weight, when I did that, I felt worse about myself, I did finally find out that I have a medical condition that causes me not to be able to lose weight without medication so that is what is happening now. You are very talented and it is because of your videos that I have been able to expand my crochet knowledge. Keep up the great work and let yourself free!

  152. Kim

    I know it took a lot for you to write about your “crochet obstacles” but know-YOU ARE NOT ALONE! LOL. Though I am not in the Exact same boat, I’m certainly in the same pond! Been overweight my whole life and, being a gay woman, don’t use a lot of the pretty things I could make. Never made a sweater for myself until 2 years ago when I finally attempted it. It came out well and I really like it, but it too damn hot to wear!! Lol. I too give most of my creations to charities or use as gifts. I just enjoy making them. Would hate it if I tried to sell stuff.
    And then there’s the dilemma-love to crochet(and read) which keeps me sedentary but I know I should get up and move more so that I could be thinner and be able to wear more of the things I make…..
    Not that you need permission, but go ahead and make yourself that sweater or shawl or whatever you feel is an obstacle – wear it at home or in a safe space and see how it feels. Then take it from there!
    Thanks for all you do!

  153. Lori

    Great post! I, too, am more drawn to blankets and such for the reasons you mentioned. Apparel never looks the same on me. And some patterns only go to XL. 😞 I also want to learn amigurumi. There are so many adorable patterns. I’ll learn one day. Thanks for all you do

  154. Debbi Alt

    Thank you for sharing such personal feelings and fears. I hope you know how much you inspire all of us with your energy, excitement and crochet talents. I discovered your videos when I was just beginning my crochet journey about 5 years ago, and probably would have given up crochet if it wasn’t for your talent for teaching others- and your wonderful sense of humor!
    THANK YOU VERY MUCH ❣️ P.S. Like you, I have not tried making any clothing – for me or anyone else, because I’m sure I’ll look like a frumpy sack 🥸. I’m sure one day we will both take that daring step. It may stay in the closet ( or be donated) but we will have grown as a crocheter, and a person in the process. Happy New Year to you🎊

  155. Michelle

    Wow!!! Mikey you said exactly what I feel! I’ve never made crochet or knitted any sweater or such for myself either. I’ve done shawls and ponchos and all other things but never a garment for me. I’m afraid it won’t fit or look like I imagine it should. Maybe we should take the leap💜 I bet there are many others who feel the same. Do I see in the future a CAL??

  156. Juanita Nyari

    Mikey, I truly get where you are coming from on making things for yourself, I also always make things and give them to others. I have been crocheting off and on since i was 6 and I am now 59 I quit for a while when my children were little but when my husband got sick I started again. This helped with my depression and anxiety when he passed away 10 yrs ago,
    I have never tried designing my own patterns but I use others and embellish them with my own touches.
    I get a lot of inspiration from you.
    I purchased your book and cried as I read it from cover to cover and laughed also. I will cherish it always.
    You are recommended by me to everyone that expresses an interest in learning anything about crochet. So keep doing the awesome things you do and know that you inspire a whole lot of people.
    thank you for all you do.

  157. carol

    i remember when you were working on the Nutcrackers…..what totally amazing pieces of ART! As for your feeling concerning wearables…you’re not alone… females also doubt themselves in making apparel that is flattering for themselves or others because many of us do not have perfect bodies (or at least feel that way). Always good to try…if it works-awesome… if it doesn’t … find someone who will love it. It’s the journey not the destination that matters! Skills learned, ways to figure issues out, trusting yourself to try something new….always worthwhile!!
    Keep being true to you!

  158. Liz

    Sometimes I struggle because I want everything I make to have a purpose, be practical, or to be loved, and so sometimes I don’t make things that look fun because I don’t want to “waste” my time. It’s also tough when people don’t understand how much goes into making a crochet item or don’t give you feedback to let you know they like/use your gift. I think it just makes me pickier about what I make, which can slow down my momentum or impede joy.

  159. Gina

    Mikey, you are so talented and inspiring. Your willingness to share your vulnerabilities and fears takes a lot of courage. Creativity exposes my vulnerable side and deepest desires of my heart. I stay away from complicated patterns that I want to make because I don’t think my skills measure up. I am single but long to be with someone. I think that somehow if I crochet the right shawl or accessory, the right man will notice me wearing it. You are a strong, amazing person and I value your insight into creating beautiful crochet. Thank you.

  160. Dianna

    Absolutely. I can follow a pattern, but even when I do, I find it difficult to make two the same as when making mittens, etc I hate making for myself as I never look as good as the model as I am overweight and rarely chose the right style for my body shape.

  161. Kerri

    I’m an overweight female. I’d Love to make a sweater for myself, but I don’t know if I can find a pattern for a bigger people. I really love amigurmi and am quite good at it. I understand having limitations or feeling limitations. Some days I struggle with math in patterns , other day’s I’m good. I’m probably dyslexic but was never tested in school. I enjoy crocheting, it’s very much therapeutic for me. I’m probably going to need to look into donating some blankets I made as I don’t have the room to store all of them. You are an inspiration to me and one of the reasons I stay in the fiber arts after I learn to crochet to fix my grandma‘s blanket that she gave me over 30 years ago.

  162. Mikey, reading your confession made me feel as thou you were in my head. I’ve been crocheting quite a number of years after I stumbled on your left handed videos. I tried once to make a sweater for myself and I couldn’t make it happen. I put it In the garbage, never even tried pulling out the yarn for something else. I want to make stuff for myself but I struggle with my size as well. Early this year I decided that many years later it was time for me to try again, I made the granny coatigan ( free pattern from yarnspirations) I was determined to make it fit me….guess what….lol I did it I did it…I look at it everyday and now I want to put a liner so I can wear it during the winter. I am so darn proud of myself. My biggest challenge is to make my son a nutcracker as he collects them and I know he would truly treasure something like this. I want to make dolls and toys but I’m afraid of trying and failing. I understand what you are saying and you are not alone….

  163. Karen Catone

    100%
    I feel this way regarding size. The floral cami you released several years back was able to be made in many sizes, but because of my size, I never felt comfortable wearing something like that. So I made it for my daughter.
    I stay with hats, scarves, blankets.
    Following you, learning from you, you have made me realize I can do more then I thought.
    You taught me to have faith and confidence in my abilities.
    My attempt to execute the better together Afghan was because you with your tutorials and calm teaching helped me accomplish that, where I would never have attempted otherwise.
    The miniature ornaments you did a few years ago are the closest I’ve gotten to anagarumi.
    I also would never have attempted mittens or stockings any other way.
    I look forward to continuing to follow your journey, no matter what size you may be on the outside, I know your heart is huge! ❤️ 🧶
    By the way, I think you’ve lost weight recently!

  164. Kat R

    Crochet brings me joy. But, nothing compares to the joy of giving your Crochet item to someone and they just light up. That is real and pure joy.
    I too am an overweight crocheter. I own it, mostly because it doesn’t define the real and true me that’s inside. Nor should it define anyone. Stitch on fellow hooker!! I look forward to your future designes.

  165. Ela

    I’m right with you on the sweater front. Or I was. The first attempt was frogged, the second fit so weirdly I’ve kept it as a joke. But the third. OMG. Top down, fit as you go, it just worked.
    If you want to make a sweater, do it . If you really hate it, frog it (my first sweater). It may only be something you wear at home (2nd sweater, because it’s warm even though it looks ridiculous!). But with your talent and creativity (and the right pattern), I’m sure you’ll make something you love in the end. There’s a lot of stuff I just won’t crochet, because I have the mental focus of a gnat- but I love to admire the handiwork of others. Best for me are repetitive patterns that I don’t have to count and can easily read the stitches.

  166. Lydia Mendoza

    I too have been wanting to make me a sweater or top but I’m afraid I would look “frumpy”… my weight is something I dealt with all my life (mom a great cook and dad a fantastic baker cuz he worked at Hostess Bakery in Los Angeles) and these past few years I realized I am a stress eater, taking care of my 96 year old mom is a lot. Your right it’s not easy changing your mindset when it has been set and programmed for a very long time…I wish us both strength and courage to learn. God Bless and Take Care, I do love your crocheting!

  167. Donna Hockett

    Can I just say that I love your heart! That and you were my first crochet teacher. Thank you for the gift of your knowledge!
    Also, I’d like to encourage you to make something for yourself. Step out of that comfort zone and make it so uniquely you that you can’t help but beam with pride when you wear it.
    Much love from South Texas!

  168. Deanna Pinkston

    I have always wanted to crochet a sweater for myself. I bought the yarn about 4 years ago. Still have the yarn. Like you, I do not want to measure myself because of my size. I do find joy in making blankets, lovies and several other things to give away. I have finally challenged myself by doing my first CAL, week 1 done, thanks to your fabulous YouTube videos. Thank you for all you do, you give people strength with your tutorials and blog.

  169. Sandye

    I keep telling myself I am going to make a poncho. At least that is something I could wear at home. The thought of anything fitted just doesn’t excite me for fear of how it would look. I understand..

  170. Reb

    Introspection is an awesome tool to discover who you and and what makes you tick. That said I would love to hear the 10 things about you that you love, respect and nurture.
    I tried crochet off and on over the years, mostly off. Don’t like projects that have RULES, so I relish hobbies that come with no rules…free form. I refinish furniture (one rule: don’t sand against the grain but thats the only rule).
    A friend got me into crochet seriously (well as seriously as I can be) and I will tell you: I Hated It!
    All this counting and choosing colors and counting and figuring out a stitch that looks foreign to me, and oh, did I mention the counting? Yes I saw a gazillion limits, but I hung in. It is still a love hate relationship, but the love is winning. Frustrated enough to rip out an entire afghan….yep, with no intention to pick it back up…but I did. One thing I did was struggle through a project but finished it. Chose new colors and made another one (same pattern) immediately…easier, more relaxed, and becoming content…gave away every 2nd one I made.
    Your sense of humor, patience and empathy are what inspire me to take on a major project that is totally out of my league. You are a real person – meaning you put all of you out to the world and look what comes back…love and appreciation. You rock your world Mikey….keep being you and sharing both yourself and your gift of crochet. It is NOT my gift….but its climbing up from the bottom of my list…one project at a time. Thanks for the boost.

  171. Vikki

    I find making for myself and loved ones opens up the opportunity to be inclusive. I sew, knit, and crochet for the men in my life all the time. The Hubs is 6’ just shy of 300lbs, my youngest is 6’4” 275 and my oldest is “average” he fits into most commercial clothing and patterns are easiest to find for him. My answer has always been vintage patterns. I have a huge collection of Mary Maxim, Workbaskets and vintage craft books. I raised my boys in a way that societies ideals don’t weigh as heavily as it does on many. They have peers who are so worried about what others think that they struggle to enjoy life in the moment. I don’t know you personally so I don’t know what caused you to develop the anxiety you possess. I do know that your feelings are valid. I also know that there is no shame in feeling them or expressing them. If you would like some help finding manly patterns and reference materials to help shape them to your liking I am up for it.

  172. Lee Clark

    Mikey it’s good to know yourself but I’m sadden that you don’t feel good about your body. I’m overweight and I think you underestimate yourself about clothing. I would love to make clothing but alas I am not able to leave a pattern. Maybe you should design a sampler sweater. You do have the skills. Sometimes we don’t see ourselves as others do. You are awesome being creative is the point and creations don’t have to be perfect. If we love it that’s what important. I love your colorful hat in your book but I can follow it so far then am lost. I will try and it might not look like yours but I will like it. I would love to see you make a sweater. That’s my problem I’m not sure how to put one together. Anyway just want you to know you’ve taught me to be ok with what I’m learning in crochet after 40 years. You can learn something as well we have men who are not perfect and would like to make them a sweater. We love you and Daniel and your efforts to help us grow but it should be both ways us helping you. I’m also trying to learn making cute animals so let’s take a journey together. No one is really alone. Spread your wings and make that sweater you might really learn something.

  173. Nancy Elliott

    Oh Mikey, I know you have self doubt about certain aspects but sweetheart, half the fun of crocheting is the journey! You taught me that! and look how far I’ve come along, knowing that you believe in my ability (even more than I thought possible in myself) so my friend take your own advice and jump in with both feet. Make yourself a sweater ( it doesn’t have to be your own pattern…yet) and if it doesn’t fit, that’s okay, no one needs to know. Trial and error. When I first made a sweater for myself I was so terrified that I screwed it up, I still haven’t to this day put it together. But I have made a ton of sweaters since, some fit, some don’t, lol I don’t always measure cause I just pick the size according to the pattern (large) I don’t usually bother with gauge either lol but you know doing it has taught me skills of being able to learn arm shaping and raglan sleeve vs other kinds. Go for it, have fun and if it works out, fantastic, if not that’s okay too, you can give it to the cats as a blankie…the point is just try it, who knows how it will turn out! PS, most crochet sweater patterns I’ve come across don’t have skinny ass models, they look just like you and me! I’ll send you a link to a male sweater pattern that I think you’ll have fun with xoxo

  174. LeahB

    Every advertisement for clothes makes me think about how atrocious the item would look on my build. You know that meme that shows the perky skinny gal in flannel and then the lumberjack in flannel? Yeah, that’s me the lumberjack. Sigh. I think that with every article of clothing. “Well, it won’t look like that on me” and stick with jeans and a tshirt. So I’m right there with you. I crocheted the sunset ruana for myself because I loved the look and the colors. The finished product is beautiful. But I look like a giant cube of yarn in it so I never leave home with it, which is a damn shame.
    I send you some crojo mojo and hope you find your groove. I’ve made a bunch of amigurumi to gift. Once you get the basics down, you can make anything. Like you, I can’t see the whole thing in my head, so I love puzzling something together with a pattern. Good luck and thank you for sharing your passion for crochet.

  175. Cindy Nadeau

    As a woman of size, I too steer clear of sweaters. Part of it is that I also crochet very tight. So, after pulling something out multiple times I give up.

    I usually stick to afghans and shawls myself. They’re my go to for presents and are always well received.

    I have the opposite problem with toys. My embroidery skills are good but big hands make it difficult to work small. Think maybe you’ve given me the kick to try again. 😇

  176. Marjie

    You are not alone! Thanks for sharing! I love making and giving crochet items, but have yet to figure out how to wear a shawl. They move and fall off constantly! I do wear my scarves occasionally and a hat once in a while. Like you, I default to blankets. I have never considered making a sweater for myself because I think the bulk would make me look fatter and just assumed there are no patterns for a plus size gal! Make yourself a sweater and enjoy wearing it!! Who cares what the tape measure says? That number has NO power over you if you don’t allow it. =)

  177. Barbara P.

    Hi Mikey…I have been crocheting for one year now and thanks to you and your awesome videos, I feel like I can tackle anything!! Maybe it’s a newbie talking here, but the sky is the limit! I was able to make something for everyone in my family for Christmas and the look of shock and awe on their faces brought be immense personal joy. I have come so far over the past year, this old dawg has learned some new tricks! Lol! I approach learning to crochet the way I approach a lot of new, exciting, sometimes scary things….one project at a time, one row at a time, one stitch at a time! Thank you from the bottom of my yarn bag for all that you do.

  178. Caitlin

    This post totally tugs at my heart strings. You are such a giving person, so it makes me sad that some parts of this hobby aren’t developed enough to support you. There should be more awesome wearables for men! I think many of us struggle with our weight, and that saps our confidence about making things for ourselves. I hope that when it will make you happy to make a sweater, you do so. But there’s no reason to force yourself – if there is something that makes you feel happy and creative within this hobby we all love so much, I hope that’s what you choose to put your energy into. Thank you so much for all the care you put into everything you do! I know we greatly appreciate it.

  179. Cora morrison

    I feel your pain in the idea of making sweaters, and although I have made a few they never seem to look as good on me as I think and I end up giving them away. I limit myself on projects like doing afghans a because I can never seem to settle on color choices, does that sound weird? I get stuck in a mode of making the same thing over and over again (slippers) and when I take a break from them I can’t seem to push myself into a new project. I keep looking at current stitch along and think I so love the design and have gone three times looking at my yarn stash and have yet to settle on color choices, and I think what the heck is wrong with me!! And I grab up a skein and start on another pair of slippers…my comfort zone, even though I keep working up new designs they are still my comfort zone.

  180. Vickie Whitewolf

    Mikey you are not alone. I don’t take money for my items cause I never think I’m good enough. I make the item and gift it. Like you I have never done anything clothing for me except the campfire sweater which I can hide behind. I never did toys per say until my grandson. He is autistic and the colors and textures make him happy so I’m happy. crocheting is the one thing that takes, but sometimes gives lol, my anxiety. Believe me you are not alone in anything you said. As a matter a fact I stopped and said ” omg that’s me too! Maybe I am normal!” Lol. Thank you for sharing your journey and may our roads cross again. You, your story, are inspirational!

  181. Christina

    Hi Mikey
    I have been following you for quite sometime. I am not a regular commentor but I love a your creations. I to struggle with weight and even the thought of crocheting or knitting myself a sweater but it makes me fearful, plus my experience in clothing making is limited.. What if I mess up? What if it doesn’t fit? Totally understand. I think with you being such an inspiration to us all it would be cool to see a sweater creation! Even if you make it a part of a project for someone else? You are wonderful, beautiful, and loved by all of us! I wish you the best in the New year and look forward to more blogs ❤

  182. Nancy Dickey

    Michael, as a woman who is almost 65, and overweight, I also find it hard to make garments for myself.
    I have a short sleeved cardigan that I made as a tester…I wear that sweater everywhere..because it hides the extra weight behind it.
    I test for several designers, and always find myself not even commenting on some of the items designers want testers for, because I know I won’t like it, and I’ll never wear it..so it gets donated.

    What is the answer? I’m sure I don’t know, but I am loving doing amigurumi with blanket yarn and seeing just how big amd chonky they are.

    Keep doing what you are doing. You are bringing joy into the world 🥰🥰

  183. Carolyn

    Hey Mickey, thank you for always being real. You are not alone in not being I love with your body. So many of us struggle with weight issues. I too have never made a sweater for myself. It sucks that as advanced as society is, body shaming is still hugely present. Thank you for being you.
    Much love from a tiny town on the prairies. Xoxoxoxoxox

  184. Cheryl B.

    I do feel limited as well because of my weight. I have made a few ponchos, pocket scarfs, and shawls but they just don’t look right on me so I usually give them away to friends. I have never made a sweater and am not sure I ever will. I am much happier making blankets, throws, scarfs, and hats as well as a cute critter here and there. Does it diminish my love of crochet and sometime knitting? Absolutely not but I do sometimes feel cheated because I am limited in what I can make for myself.

  185. Brandy Schwab

    Thank you for your honesty and openness! I wish I could take away your fear and worry, but all I can do is tell you that you are not alone in any of these worries and I appreciate your work very much. I can wait to work on the new CAL blanket. I have two friends retiring in the spring and want to make one for each of them. The joy of your work extends far beyond the items you make. The joy spreads far and wide.

  186. Deedra Martin

    Thank you for so bravely sharing! You are not alone in your struggle to find a way to both relate to and enjoy crochet as a whole person. Cheers to sparking joy in the New Year!

  187. Terry Chadwick

    I love your designs and like you I also LOVE stitch samplers. I have made a few of yours and hope to do more. I love making afghans but try to do smaller things likes dishcloths,hats, scarves etc. I mean I can make them easily but I would rather do blankets. Please keep the designs coming. I’m thinking about trying toys for my grandchildren

  188. Cathy Foster

    Thanks for this Mikey. I too would love to do a sweater for myself but I don’t even dare think of it. Instead I make dozens of hats every year to donate to various charities. It gives me joy to see others feeling warm. I so appreciate you keeping it real.

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